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Wedding Etiquette: How to Navigate Tough Situations

Wedding etiquette is a completely different language. There are certain things you are supposed to do, things that are forbidden, and wording to everything you say is key. A bride can feel extremely overwhelmed when trying to figure out what she should do and how to do or say it! Here are a few situations that you may find yourself in and how you should respond.

1.  Adults only wedding and reception.
Many couples opt for an adult only wedding, especially if they are really going for a sophisticated atmosphere and feel.  How do you tell people that kids are not allowed without saying it that blatantly?  You have a few options.  Address invitations to the parents only and don’t mention the kids or ‘family’ anywhere on the invite. You can have your friends spread the word that it’s adults only. But sometimes, depending on the type of crowd you’re inviting, you need to spell things out clearly. Put ‘Adult Reception’ on the bottom of the RSVP card.


2.  No presents, just $$.
This is a tough one. It is usually considered to be rude to only ask for money as wedding gifts. But with more wedding couples financing their own wedding and with the cost of weddings rising, money is becoming much more desirable as a wedding gift. The best and easiest way to ask for money without looking tacky is to let your friends and family spread the word for you. Don’t put any gift registry information on your invitations and guests will most likely inquire to those who know you best. If you want to go even further down this road, decide what you will spend your wedding money on – whether it’s your house, bed, or to help with your honeymoon. People like to know what they are contributing to!

3.  Taking on the seating chart.
Don’t hyperventilate when it’s time to develop a seating chart for the reception. Where does a bride even start? The usual guidelines are to seat people by age groups or their relationship to you. For example, you would seat your guests with each other, and the groom’s guests with each other. Or if you have several older couples from both the groom’s and your sides, seat them together as they will have more in common than if you seated them with younger people. Make sure you designate a specific seat for each person around the table. This will reduce quibbling and every person will feel special to know that you thought enough about them to put them in the best seat possible.

4.  Bridesmaid gifts.
How much should a bride spend on gifts for her bridesmaids? It is tradition for a bride to give her bridesmaids something special, usually at the rehearsal dinner. Use these two guidelines: how much you’re budget will allow and how much you are asking them to shell out for you. If they must buy their $150 dress, $50 shoes, your gift, and a plane ticket to your destination wedding, your gift to them should be more than a $10 frame from Fred Meyer. Use the “would I want it?” test before purchasing anything for them.

Most importantly, remain calm and don’t let yourself get easily frazzled. Etiquette is very important to any wedding, but it isn’t the make all or break all. If you find yourself in any of these sticky situations, having these etiquette guidelines in your back pocket will help you through each of them! Good luck! 

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About the author: Julia is a writer passionate about health, fitness, and blogging. When she’s not running her dog, she can sometimes be found writing about laser liposuction, cooking and a myriad of other topics. She’s also a fan of Sono Bello on Twitter and Sono Bello on Facebook.

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