If you are preparing to celebrate the marriage of your son or daughter – first and foremost – congratulations! This is a joyful time to enjoy and remember for a lifetime. As mother of the bride or mother of the groom, you may already have a lot of things on your mind, especially those related to the planning and preparations for the wedding. Have you given any thought yet to your own wedding hairstyle as an honored mother?
Choosing wedding hairstyles for mother of the bride and mother of the groom can be challenging at first if you don’t know how you want to wear your hair. Hairstyles for mother of the bride and mother of the groom are definitely less discussed than hairstyles for the bride and bridesmaids. Despite the lack of discussion around hairstyles for the mothers in the wedding, you can still find a wedding hairstyle to make you look and feel fabulous.
Whether you are mother of the bride, mother of the groom, or stepmother of the bride, or stepmother of the groom, you can surely find a lovely mature and sophisticated wedding hairstyle that fits the theme of the wedding and positively reflects the styles shared by the bride and the wedding party.
Consider the following tips and suggestions from expert hairstylists and hair artists to help you select the perfect wedding hairstyle for mother of the bride or mother of the groom.
When it comes to wedding hairstyles, are there any rules of thumb for mother of the bride (MOB) and mother of the groom (MOG)?
• “Try to remember it is the bride’s day, the MOB and MOG hair styles really depend on how formal or casual the wedding is,” says Lia Dominguez, Stylist at Tom Brophy Salon in Beverly Hills. “In any case, I feel the MOB and MOG should keep it classic and not too complicated, try not to distract from the bride.”
• “For mothers it is important to reflect their hairstyle to the bride and the rest of the bridal party,” says International Hair Artist Naz Kupelian. “If everyone has up-dos then the mother’s look should reflect the same formality and still be age appropriate.”
• “The mothers need to gauge it by the style of the bride and how fancy her hair will be,” agrees Maria Schmiedicke, stylist, president and owner of Salon deZEN in Alexandria, Virginia. “If the bride does an up-do, the mothers should go with a low chignon. Chingnons are very in right now and they are not too overstated.”
• “The mother of the bride and mother of the groom need to always remember that, though they are an important part of the wedding and are honored guest, they are not part of the ‘wedding party’ and their hair style should reflect that,” Schmiedicke says. “In other words know your place and never outdo or outshine the bride.”
Wedding Hairstyles for the Mothers – Up-dos, Wearing Hair Down, Blow Outs, etc.
Whether the wedding is formal, causal, or somewhere in between may have the biggest impact on the way you wear your hair to your daughter’s or son’s wedding. Consider these tips to help you choose a wedding hairstyle to wear to your child’s wedding, but remember, not all stylists share the same opinions and not all hairstyles look the same on different people. Ask your own stylist what would work best as a special wedding hairstyle for you to wear to your son’s or daughter’s wedding.
Do you recommend up-dos, half-up / half-down, or flowing hairstyles for mother of the bride and mother of the groom?
• “Wearing the hair up or down is about formality of the wedding and time of day,” says Lia Dominguez. “The more formal the wedding, the hair should go up. The earlier in the day, the less the hair goes up. Usually, I prefer the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom to look more polished or classic and recommend a nice blow out or classic up-do rather than half-up or half-down.”
• “The hair style depends on the initial look of the person,” says International Hair Artist Naz Kupelian. “Up-dos don’t generally look good on everyone. If it is a formal wedding than half up / half down is still considered formal.”
• “If you are the mother of the bride or groom and you find yourself unsure of what to do with your hair for the wedding day, play it safe and treat yourself to a professional blow out from a stylist,” says Schmiedicke. “That way your hair will still look like your style, but with the fullness and structure that can only be achieved with a professional styling.”
• “Never make it look like they will be sitting through a hurricane with the hair all slicked back,” Schmiedicke adds. This will make them look too old and out of touch with the current fashions. A loose side swept bang looks great on mature women. (Ever heard of Botox bangs?) They work.”
What are some formal wedding hairstyles suggestions for the MOB and MOG?
“The classic formal style I recommend is the French twist; this is a classic no fail style,” says Lia Dominguez. “I also recommend a simple chignon, simply pulled back without hair accessories. If the hair is short, try not to style the hair too big, or not with too much height as this may upstage the bride. Try to keep it simple.”
What are some casual hairstyles suggestions for the mother of the bride and mother of the groom?
“The MOB and MOG should always look classic, a simple blow out if the hair is shoulder length and above, anything longer can be styled in a simple French twist, up-do, or classic chignon,” says Dominguez.
What are some no-fail, popular wedding hairstyles for the MOB and MOG no matter how formal the wedding?
• “No matter if the wedding is formal, semi-formal, or casual is the classic French twist,” Dominguez says. “This hairstyle suits all – you can add a few more or less curls depending on how formal or casual the wedding is. The more formal, the less curls.”
• “A no fail hair style is keeping the style similar to what they would normally do yet adding some curls with a curling iron for some texture,” suggests Naz Kupelian.
Should mother of the bride and mother of the groom wear accessories or flowers in their hair?
• “It is not recommended that the MOB or MOG wear hair accessories or flowers in their hair; leave this for the bride and wedding party,” says Dominguez.
• “Mother of the brides and mothers of the grooms should only wear flowers in their hair if the bride invites them to,” says Schmiedicke. “As for accessories the rule of thumb is ‘Less is more.’”
If you are ever in doubt about choosing your mother of the bride or mother of the groom hairstyle, don’t hesitate to check in with the bride about her preferences for wedding hairstyles. Some brides already envision things a certain way, and a simple conversation can go a long way to getting everyone on the same page for a joyous, memorable occasion.
Something fun to do — consider getting your hair done as a group before the wedding. The bride might invite you to go along to the salon or to her bridal suite to have your hair done together. If not, consider putting together your own primping party with close family or friends who are also going to the wedding. Your mother of the bride or mother of the groom hairstyle is sure to stand out, so don’t forget to smile for all those pictures.
About the Experts:
Lia Dominguez is a weddings and up-do stylist at Tom Brophy Salon in Beverly Hills. For more information about Tom Brophy Salon, please visit online at www.tombrophyhair.com.
Maria Schmiedicke is a stylist, president, and owner of Salon deZEN in Alexandria, Virginia. For more information, please visit online at www.salondezen.com.
Naz Kupelian is an International Hair Artist and owner of Naz Kupelian Salon. For more information, visit Naz Kupelian Salon online at www.nazkupeliansalon.com.
(Photos courtesy of Terry Akins and TG Public Image.)