From Invincible to Convincible – Getting the Man in Your Life to Address His Health Isn’t Difficult. It Only Takes the Right Strategy

Getting the Man in Your Life to Address His Health Isn’t Difficult. It Only Takes the Right Strategy

Men are notorious when it comes to health. They ignore it. But that may not be such a smart strategy now considering job layoffs are rampant, the employment market is tight and the dollar is being stretched thin. If a man wants to thrive in today’s world he must be productive—and then some—and productivity is contingent upon good health. So what can a spouse / significant other do to get the man in their life to a doctor for a check up or that nagging problem that won’t go away finally diagnosed?

First it is necessary to take the “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” approach: understand where men are coming from. Five elements routinely, and quickly, get a man’s attention:

1.    Food
2.    Success
3.    Ego stroking
4.    Being better than the next guy
5.    Sex

Get your man to address his health with these tips straight from the doctor. (photo courtesy of morgueFile)Health is way down on the list…that is, until something is broken. 
Try telling a man to stop smoking, try a new diet, lose weight… anything that pertains to taking care of his physical being and chances are that his eyes will glaze and he’ll reach for a PDA. Or he’ll simply dig in and do the opposite. The best approach? Appeal to their ego.

Here are five suggestions to help get you started. 

1. Appeal to the caveman instinct – the protector: Tell your man that you are worried about your next doctor visit and ask if he’ll come with you (could be to give you confidence, to interpret what the doctor tells you). Talk with your doctor ahead of time, tell him what your concern is – your physician can suggest what’s important for your significant other during the visit, even schedule the appointment.   Example: My wife asked me to accompany her to a colonoscopy, so I did. During the visit, the doctor told me that I should get one too (I even know better, being a physician) – three days later, I had one.

2. Bring up the topic of your friends’ men who have lost weight (substitute stopped smoking, caught their cancer in time, etc). Talk about how lucky the guy is, perhaps how good he looks, how successful he is, how he’s improved his golf game, whatever gets his attention. Odds are, if you start talking about another man, yours will want to one-up him.

3. Don’t say “if you lose weight, you’ll be more attractive.” It won’t work. Do tell him how terrific a mutual friend looks since he’s lost weight. That’s more likely to get attention and results.

4. Apply scare tactics. Men think they are invincible. If you know someone who was saved a great heartache by a routine health screen, then talk about it. Don’t insist on getting screened, let him figure that out for himself. The harder you push, the less likely your man will comply.

5. Start living a healthy lifestyle. Exercise, eat the right foods, lose that extra weight, start dressing like you did when you were dating – you’ll feel better about yourself and he’s likely to want to compete with you.

Remember, no matter what you choose to do, in the end, it has to be his idea. Do everything you can to simply put the idea in his head and you’ll be surprised how quickly he comes around.

About the Expert:
Thom E Lobe, MD, FACS, FAAP, is founder and medical director of Beneveda Medical Group in Beverly Hills, CA.  He earned his MD degree, graduating cum laude and with special honors in pediatrics.  During medical school, Dr. Lobe took time out to train with the former Surgeon General C. Everett Koop, MD and with leading physicians at Harvard and Johns Hopkins Medical Schools. Dr. Lobe followed his dream of putting together the most advanced medical practice in existence focusing on the new medical specialty called energy medicine.  The first practice in the US to specialize in Energy Revitalization, Beneveda is second to none in the management of problems many consider resistant to conventional approaches such as chronic pain, fibromyalgia, anxiety, depression, insomnia, weight loss, osteoporosis and others. Reach him at or [email protected].

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