From Invincible to Convincible – Getting the Man in Your Life to Address His Health Isn’t Difficult. It Only Takes the Right Strategy

Getting the Man in Your Life to Address His Health Isn’t Difficult. It Only Takes the Right Strategy

Men are notorious when it comes to health. They ignore it. But that may not be such a smart strategy now considering job layoffs are rampant, the employment market is tight and the dollar is being stretched thin. If a man wants to thrive in today’s world he must be productive—and then some—and productivity is contingent upon good health. So what can a spouse / significant other do to get the man in their life to a doctor for a check up or that nagging problem that won’t go away finally diagnosed?

First it is necessary to take the “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus” approach: understand where men are coming from. Five elements routinely, and quickly, get a man’s attention:

1.    Food
2.    Success
3.    Ego stroking
4.    Being better than the next guy
5.    Sex

Get your man to address his health with these tips straight from the doctor. (photo courtesy of morgueFile)Health is way down on the list…that is, until something is broken. 
Try telling a man to stop smoking, try a new diet, lose weight… anything that pertains to taking care of his physical being and chances are that his eyes will glaze and he’ll reach for a PDA. Or he’ll simply dig in and do the opposite. The best approach? Appeal to their ego.

Here are five suggestions to help get you started. 

1. Appeal to the caveman instinct – the protector: Tell your man that you are worried about your next doctor visit and ask if he’ll come with you (could be to give you confidence, to interpret what the doctor tells you). Talk with your doctor ahead of time, tell him what your concern is – your physician can suggest what’s important for your significant other during the visit, even schedule the appointment.   Example: My wife asked me to accompany her to a colonoscopy, so I did. During the visit, the doctor told me that I should get one too (I even know better, being a physician) – three days later, I had one.

2. Bring up the topic of your friends’ men who have lost weight (substitute stopped smoking, caught their cancer in time, etc). Talk about how lucky the guy is, perhaps how good he looks, how successful he is, how he’s improved his golf game, whatever gets his attention. Odds are, if you start talking about another man, yours will want to one-up him.

3. Don’t say “if you lose weight, you’ll be more attractive.” It won’t work. Do tell him how terrific a mutual friend looks since he’s lost weight. That’s more likely to get attention and results.

4. Apply scare tactics. Men think they are invincible. If you know someone who was saved a great heartache by a routine health screen, then talk about it. Don’t insist on getting screened, let him figure that out for himself. The harder you push, the less likely your man will comply.

5. Start living a healthy lifestyle. Exercise, eat the right foods, lose that extra weight, start dressing like you did when you were dating – you’ll feel better about yourself and he’s likely to want to compete with you.

Remember, no matter what you choose to do, in the end, it has to be his idea. Do everything you can to simply put the idea in his head and you’ll be surprised how quickly he comes around.

About the Expert:
Thom E Lobe, MD, FACS, FAAP, is founder and medical director of Beneveda Medical Group in Beverly Hills, CA.  He earned his MD degree, graduating cum laude and with special honors in pediatrics.  During medical school, Dr. Lobe took time out to train with the former Surgeon General C. Everett Koop, MD and with leading physicians at Harvard and Johns Hopkins Medical Schools. Dr. Lobe followed his dream of putting together the most advanced medical practice in existence focusing on the new medical specialty called energy medicine.  The first practice in the US to specialize in Energy Revitalization, Beneveda is second to none in the management of problems many consider resistant to conventional approaches such as chronic pain, fibromyalgia, anxiety, depression, insomnia, weight loss, osteoporosis and others. Reach him at or [email protected].

Workout DVD Review: Get in Shape with Lalo Fuentes and LaloFit Freeze Technique

Workout DVD Review: Get in Shape with Lalo Fuentes and LaloFit Freeze Technique

I can’t remember feeling this exhilarated and accomplished in my workout routines since college when I just finished racing a 5K or playing an entire game of rugby.

I tried out the LaloFit Freeze Technique with Lalo Fuentes and I’m not kidding when I say buy this workout DVD. Not only do you feel your muscles working, but you learn to connect with each muscle group, thus ensuring you are doing each of the workout moves correctly. And with such an attractive workout instructor as Lalo Fuentes, if that’s not motivation, I don’t know what is!

LaloFit Freeze Technique brings together cardio, toning, balance, and a focus on your core and getting in touch with each muscle group. You can take the workout at your own pace, doing fewer repetitions if you are a beginner, or varying the weights to your own ability. The pace is fairly slow, so although you don’t receive specific instructions on how to do all the moves, you can learn the moves easily by watching and picking up the tips that Lalo Fuentes shares. With this slower pace, you can easily add more reps to each move if needed.

Work out with Lalo Fuentes and LaloFit Freeze Technique.Lalo’s workouts include everything from stretching exercises to warm up and cool down to floor exercises, lunges, squats, pushups, and crunches, to name a few. What I found to be pleasantly unique about this workout as compared to some of my other workout DVDs is that many of Lalo Fuentes’ Freeze Technique moves involve muscle groups from both the upper body and the lower body at the same time. As I was working out, I found myself noticing muscles I forgot I even had. In my exercise movements, I truly felt as if I were giving my entire body a great workout that would make a difference as long as I committed to a regular exercise program.

My only struggle with this workout DVD (besides endurance during a few of the moves – like pushups – because I am sadly not in the best shape of my life yet) is that the entire video is more than 50 minutes long. I loved the workout segments and the fact that you get a break with words of encouragement and inspiration after a number of different moves and repetitions for each. The problem with the length is that I cannot easily complete a 50+ minute workout before work, and knowing myself, some nights I am going to be too lazy, tired, or busy doing other things like cooking dinner, to actually complete the workout all the way through.

Work out with Lalo Fuentes and LaloFit Freeze Technique.However, I would be remiss if I failed to mention that the sexy workout instructor Lalo Fuentes makes the 50 minutes feel like a breeze. Finding the time is the tricky part, not spending the time. My plan is to complete a few sections at a time and work out over a couple days. Then, on days when I have more time, I’ll go through the entire video.

“In order to see fast results, I recommend you do the video three times per week, always leaving one day in between to let your body recover,” says Lalo Fuentes. “During the other days, do cardio and abs only, and always take one day off out of the week.”

“Some people who have tried the DVD have seen results as early as two weeks. After the second week you should feel with more energy through out your day and after 4 to 6 weeks, expect to see a lot of changes in your body. For those who don’t have a full hour to workout, I recommend to try doing the first half portion of the video, it includes full body movements so every muscles will be worked. Don’t forget to include some stretches at the end of your workout.”

All in all, I am excited to give this workout video my attention as I work to get back in shape for the springtime and summer. I am confident that the LaloFit Freeze Technique workout is going to help me by leaps and bounds in getting back into the best shape of my life.

Healthy School Lunch Guide – Lunches that Kids and Even Adults Will Enjoy

Creating healthy school lunches that children will actually enjoy and eat to the last tiny morsel is not as easy a task as one might think. It’s often difficult to find healthy items to purchase when shopping for school lunches. Check out these healthy school lunch ideas! (Photo by Susan M. Keenan)Plus, it’s difficult to get your kids to want to eat these food choices when everyone else around them has French fries, candy, chips, and cookies.

Try and think about how difficult it is to discipline yourself to continue eating the green salad and crisp apple that you packed for your own healthy lunch while all of your coworkers are sitting there munching their fast food meals that smell so good and pre-wrapped goodies that look so good. There’s good news though because despite the initial difficulty one might experience when looking for healthy school lunch choices, it is more than possible to find healthy options that everyone in the family will enjoy. Read on to discover several healthy food options that will have your kids helping you to pack their lunch boxes each day.

Back to Nature Snack Blends

Back to Nature offers several delicious varieties of their 100% natural nutty snack mix. My family has tried three of these so far and to be perfectly honest with you, I cannot wait until I try all of them. These snacks are so good that trying not to hog them all for myself instead of sharing with the kids is a difficult task. That’s great news for you though because these are healthy foods that offer lots of nutrition without the “bad” ingredients that prepackaged foods often include.

The three varieties that my family tried include the Back to Nature Bar Harbor Blend, Pistachio, Cashews & Almond Mix, and the Nantucket Blend. Each of these treats is sold in a generous 10 ounce package that provides more than enough for several children to enjoy with a bit leftover for the adults in the household as well. It is recommended, and I heartedly agree, that this snack be given only to children 6 years of age and older.

The Back to Nature Snack blends are easy to package for school lunches since you can place small portions in snack-size Ziploc baggies or small containers. Plus, the sweetness of the dried fruit eliminates the clamoring for candy while the crunchy goodness of the nuts eliminates the clamoring for salty chips.

Back to Nature “Bar Harbor Blend”

Bar Harbor Blend by Back to Nature (Photo by Susan M. Keenan)This delightful mix of cranberries, dark chocolate covered almonds, and vanilla almonds is one of my personal favorites. In fact, this is one of everyone’s favorites in my family simply because it has just the right blend of crunchy goodness, chewy texture, and delicious flavoring. Anticipation fuels the kids through their morning when they know that this Back to Nature offering is sitting in their lunch pail or bag.

The crunchiness of the almonds satisfies the need most humans have to chew and chomp on food that tastes good while the sweetness of the cranberries offers the counterbalance of chewy goodness. It’s a tough choice to pick a favorite from this selection of nuts and fruit from Back to Nature since each one of them tastes out of this world!

Pistachio, Cashews, & Almond Mix by Back to Nature (Photo by Susan M. Keenan)Back to Nature “Pistachio, Cashews & Almond Mix”

Delicately roasted with sea salt, this nut mix is perfect for little fingers and hungry appetites. Offering a big taste without the added oils and salts that so many snack mixes come with, the Pistachio, Cashews & Almond mix provides a perfect treat without the undesirable residue provided by so many other nutty snacks. In fact, this is a perfect snack for children after they have finished eating their main lunch course. There’s no need to worry about oily fingers creating difficulty packing up their lunch items for the next day. One tip that I have to offer is that you should only give the Pistachio, Cashews & Almond Mix to a child who enjoys pistachios because this flavor permeates the cashews and almonds totally.

Back to Nature “Nantucket Blend”

This is the perfect blend for those who cannot make up their mind between a fruity snack and a nutty one. The 10-ounce package is jammed pack full of pistachios, almonds, dried cherries, raisins, and dried cranberries. More likely than not, your kids will enjoy every handful of this tasty treat that is 100% natural and contains no harmful additives. The nuts in particular do pose a choking hazard in children younger than this. The presence of the pistachios does not seem to have an effect on the dried fruit in the Nantucket Blend however. This particular blend offers a greater portion of dried fruit, so it is an excellent choice to add into the lunches of picky eaters who typically avoid fruit and veggies.

Back to Nature Snack Cracker Blends

Try Back to Nature crackers for a healthy lunchtime snack. (Photo by Susan M. Keenan)While these crackers are flavorful enough to stand alone on their own, combining them with a small container of your child’s favorite dip is an excellent idea. Not only does this simple touch increase the pleasure of a healthy and tasteful lunch, but also, it gives you the chance to switch it up several times throughout the week.

One of the benefits of this healthy snack is the fact that it comes without trans fat or artificial preservatives, colors, or flavors. What could be more natural than a cracker made with flavor that comes from Mother Nature herself? These Back to Nature cracker blends are sold in 6.5-ounce boxes that are easy to store and just as easy to tuck away into a briefcase for a mid-afternoon snack for yourself.

Sesame Tarragon Crackers

A crisp six-sided cracker, the Sesame Tarragon cracker offers a satisfying, hearty flavor that undoubtedly includes both sesame and tarragon. The flavors are distinctive enough to stand out while blending together in a satisfying culinary taste temptation. For those children who want something more than just a cracker, adding small squares sliced cheese in the lunchbox will give those little fingers something to do as they put together their own mini-sandwiches. I found that any one of the Back to Nature cracker blends could easily be substituted for the less healthy snacks of potato chips or salty pretzels.

Sunflower Basil Crackers

You get a hint of the lightness of this cracker blend from the soft yellow coloring of the 100% recycled paperboard box. Offering a unique blend of sunflower kernels with fragrant basil, this savory cracker gives a satisfying crunch with a taste that simply melts on the tongue. Children love this flavor whether they are eating it solo or with a bit of cheese. In fact, this cracker is great for in between meals in add
ition to lunches. It’s light enough to satisfy transient hunger pangs without completely ruining dinner. This flavor is great for younger kids who have discerning taste buds that prefer simple tastes to strong ones.

Poppy Thyme Crackers

Packed full of flavor, this cracker not only feeds the tummy, it also feeds the spirit. From the moment this cracker hits the tongue, you get a sensation of just how healthy it truly is. There’s no heaviness filled with salt and artificial flavorings at all. Instead, the cracker tastes fresh and filled with natural flavor. Kids like its speckled appearance thanks to the tiny poppy seeds that contribute to the great taste. This particular flavor stands alone well but it can also be paired up with a bit of cheese or even a tiny scoop of flavored dip. It’s satisfying while being healthy and nutritious.

Back to Nature Cookies

Try Back to Nature cookies for a healthy lunchtime snack. (Photo by Susan M. Keenan)Back to Nature Cookies are available in three tasty varieties including Fudge Mint, Fudge Striped, and Vanilla Wafers. The packaging is attractive giving this product a good edge against other popular brands of cookies that are just as attractively packaged. The package size ranges from 6.4 ounces to 8.5 ounces depending on the variety that you select. Since no artificial preservatives, colors, or flavors are used in Back to Nature Cookies, these are an excellent and healthy option to most preprocessed cookies on the market today. Plus, there are no hydrogenated oils or fructose corn syrup in them either. It’s almost as though mom herself baked these cookies.

So far, my family has only had the opportunity to try the Fudge Mint flavor. Pleasing in taste and satisfying to hunger pangs are two of the phrases that come to mind for this tasty treat. These are great additions to any healthy school lunch since they offer that added taste of wetness that most of us crave once we’ve eaten the main food sources in our lunches. It’s nice also that these cookies are individually partitioned in the package so they don’t stick together.

More Healthy School Lunch Snacks, like Granola, Sandwich Thins, Bars, and more…

Recipe to Get into the Best Shape of Your Life

Thin, trim, athletic and slim… Many men and women across the globe wish for such a figure, but few are fortunate enough to have it without a great deal of work.

Whether you are an avid athlete or a chronic couch potato, this fairly easy dietary regimen should give you a good push in the right direction. Pair it with some regular exercise and a positive attitude, and you could be well on your way to the best shape of your life!

Tip #1: Give up soda.
It’s true – soda is full of empty calories. Sure, it may help you to stay awake at work, but it can also corrode your teeth and increase your waistline’s girth without warning. Sugary drinks impact the acidity of saliva, which quickly increases the likelihood of cavities. Furthermore, continuous consumption of soda and other super-sugary beverages can impact your digestive process.

If you can’t give up soda, at least decrease the amount of soda that you drink in a given day. Try to treat soda as just that – a treat. Have one glass a day with lunch or dinner, and drink ice water or spring water for the remainder of the day. Water is great for your body, helps to flush out toxins, and keeps you hydrated. That’s a lot more than we can say for soda!

Tip #2: Pass up salty, greasy fast food.
Believe me, as a French fry-aholic, I feel your pain. As a cross country runner in high school, I gave up eating fast food at all my favorite chain restaurants. I don’t think I ate a single French fry or chicken McNugget for six months or more. And how could I forget, when my running season was over and I indulged myself in an Extra Value Meal, my stomach cried out in pain for all the greasy chow dumped into it after months on a healthy diet.

Again, if you can’t give up the fast food, try to limit the amount you consume. You can pair your cheeseburgers with salads or fruit cup, or, you can consider switching to a healthier alternative like a deli sandwich or wrap.

Tip #3: Shut out the sugar.
Like I should talk here, being a self-proclaimed chocoholic. But without a doubt, I eat five or ten times as much candy now as I did during my high school sports seasons. Now, ten years later it is ten times tougher to prevent those sugar calories from sticking on my tummy, legs, and hips. What’s a girl to do?

During those months of training for my races, I gave up ice cream and 90 percent of the candy I used to eat. I also chowed down on healthier snacks, like carrot sticks and crackers when I got hungry. Try cutting out the majority of your sweet indulgences and treat yourself to just one (OK, or two) sugary treats a day. A small candy bar, a single brownie, two cookies…give yourself a limit and stick to it. If you feel especially motivated and determined, try to give up the sugary snacks completely for a few days a week.

Tip #4: Stop eating before bed.
Without a doubt, eating and sleeping should not go together as blissfully as they do. Eating makes us feel full and being full is akin to satisfied. Satisfied equals comfortable, and comfortable often leads right to sleep. But, if you limit yourself to eating dinner and all snacks prior to a certain time, you can help prevent those extra pounds from sneaking on late at night.

Sure, it’s all right to get a midnight snack once in a while, or to indulge at a friend’s party or other social engagement. The big idea is to work out a routine of eating before it gets to be late at night. Stick to the schedule as best as you can, and be sure to eat three balanced meals a day.

Tip #5: Exercise!
Adhering to the right kind of diet should help you initially, but exercise does the body good in so many ways. Whether you like to walk, jog, run, bike, swim, go to the gym, or do exercise videos, exercise is critical to keeping your body in the kind of shape you crave. Fitness is good for your body, mind, and soul. Paired with the right kind of diet, a regular regimen of exercise can really work wonders on any body!

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Remember, everybody’s body is different. What works for me may not work as well for you, and vice versa. Whatever the case, cutting some of the sugary sodas out of your diet and working out on a regular basis should bring positive results.

Consult your physician before attempting any rigorous dietary routines or dietary supplements.

Exercising Steps to a Slimmer Spring

When the days start getting warmer, our minds automatically drift to swimsuit shopping, relaxing hours by the pool, and fabulous summer getaways. Well, that is until reality sets in and we remember we’ve got some work to do before baring our bods on the beach.

Winter’s chilly bite often tempts us into a pattern of laziness and over-eating. We’re bored, so we eat. We’re cold, so we eat. We’re hosting holiday parties and going out on the town, so we eat. The vicious cycle continues until we’ve packed on about five or ten pounds more than we normally weigh.

If you want to drop a few pounds before swimsuit season arrives, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to forego all sweets, salts and carbs. In fact, a monster diet may not get you anywhere but frustrated. The key to slimming and trimming your figure lies within…you’ve got to make a commitment to yourself to live a healthier lifestyle, and the rest will fall into place.

First of all, get off your lazy butt! Muscles aren’t just attached to your body to hold your insides together… so start using them! Find activities that you enjoy and your workout sessions start to seem like playtime. Get together with a friend or a group of friends – or new acquaintances – and encourage yourselves to reach your goals. Positive reinforcement and motivation truly do impact your performance and success!

Try some fun and exciting activities on for size, to get yourself back into the size you want to be. You can participate in gentle aerobic exercises, weightlifting, intense physical workouts and more – it all depends on your personal style and what you like to do. Consider Pilates and yoga classes for a group setting – or you can buy the workout tapes and DVDs to get started in the comfort of your home.

You can also get active by trying these activities:
•    Roller-Blading
•    Running/Jogging
•    Power-Walking
•    Biking

•    Weightlifting
•    Sit-ups, Push-ups, Chin-ups…
•    Climbing stairs instead of taking the escalator or elevator
•    Walking instead of driving whenever possible

To really clinch your goals and get your body in the shape you want for the warmer months, you must also make a commitment regarding the foods you eat. You do not have to cut sweets entirely out of your diet, but it truly would help if you reduced your intake of sugary treats. Giving up soda may not be a bad idea, and it’s also a wise choice for your teeth!

Snack on crunchy fruits and veggies during the day instead of grabbing for cookies and potato chips. Fresh fruits and vegetables taste great and positively impact your health in so many ways. And did you know – carrots, apples and celery also combat bad breath!

Forget the diet pills, psycho dieting plans and insane, nonstop workouts. When you decide you are ready to make some positive changes in your life to better your body image, do so gradually. Make a conscious effort to eat healthier foods and cut down on the troublesome snacks. Make small changes and adapt to a healthier lifestyle.

Start out by exercising once or twice a week and see how great your body feels the next day. You’ll soon want to work out more vigorously, and your healthy appetite for exercise may even influence healthier eating!

Tips for Self-Renewal from Head to Toe

Are stressful days leaving you dragging? Invigorate your senses and relax your entire body for instant renewal that will keep you going the whole week through. Renewal of mind, body and soul can be achieved more easily than you think… just set aside some time for yourself and slip away into a carefree moment.

Renewal of Hair and Scalp
With extreme temperatures, excessive blow-drying and chemical processing, hair and scalp may suffer damages that are not immediately apparent to the naked eye. After time, dry, peeling scalp, split ends and brittle hair may result. To remedy these undesirable traits, revamp your daily maintenance routine.

Change products to a moisture-rich shampoo formula and a deep conditioning treatment. Something like St. Ives Hair Repair Intensive Conditioner will generally provide immediate results in the texture of your tresses and the way your scalp feels.

While shampooing, gently use your fingernails on your scalp as the suds course through your hair. In a light scratching motion, refresh your scalp and rinse away any dry particles. For a truly invigorating experience, apply a deep conditioning treatment with a tingling effect. Before rinsing, allow product to saturate hair and scalp for two minutes or as directed.

If at all possible, avoid over-drying hair with a blow dryer. By allowing hair to dry naturally, strands are kept intact longer, leaving them soft, shiny and healthy-looking.

Renewal of Eyes
For tired, overworked eyes, get as cool as a cucumber by placing a cold slice on each eye. If no cucumbers are to be found, substitute a cold, damp washcloth, wrung out and placed over both eyes. Lay back and relax for a few moments while your eyes absorb the cooling effects. To best relieve bloodshot eyes, though, make an early appointment with your bed!

Renewal of Skin
First, a Facial…
To reinvigorate your skin and your body altogether, choose a gentle exfoliant to restore a healthy glow to your visage. (I recommend St. Ives Apricot Scrub.) Using your selected product, gently buff away any rough spots and dry skin cells in seconds. Remembering to repeat this process regularly will leave your skin feeling soft, smooth and perfect.

For further rejuvenation, a facial mud mask applied at least once a week will dry out problem areas on your skin, relax facial muscles and relieve tension lines as the mask hardens in minutes. Allow the mask to dry as you relax while reading a book or magazine, watching part of a television program or writing out your shopping list.

Now, for the Whole Body Experience…
Macrobiotic Counselor Patrick Riley suggests doing a daily “body rub”, which involves dipping a white washcloth in warm water and vigorously rubbing every square inch of one’s body. He explained that this procedure would leave the skin feeling fresh and renewed, while also freeing the mind. (Note: this is a great exfoliating technique as well.)

Additionally, scented moisturizing lotions for dry elbows, knees and legs will help to keep skin soft and smooth, moisturized and healthy.

Renewal of Feet
Pedicures operate as an excellent stress-buster and they work very well as a means of refreshing and reinvigorating the body. If an all-out pedicure takes too much time, compromise with some aromatherapy foot lotion and a self-administered foot massage before heading off to bed. Relaxation and rejuvenation will send you straight to dreamland.

Self-Renewal for You, in Entirety…
For your entire body, enjoy a sensuous hot bubble bath with suds of your favorite scent or bath oil beads, bath salts, fizzers or other relaxing bathing products. Fill the tub with warm water – not scalding but not lukewarm. Allow yourself at least 20 minutes to a half hour to enjoy serenity and the soothing suds and waters around you. After a long day in the office, a sporting event or intense workout, a calming bubble bath will wash your cares away.

To enhance the experience:
•    Burn an aromatherapy candle on your countertop, away from any potential fire hazards.
•    Immerse yourself in a good book or magazine.
•    Play soft and tranquil music in the background.
•    Treat yourself to a plate of healthy snacks – frozen grapes, vegetable sticks, applesauce, pudding or yogurt.
•    Close your eyes and daydream, but be careful not to fall asleep.
•    Wrap yourself in a fluffy towel at the conclusion of your bath.

Another body renewing trick makes things about as simple as they get… exercise! Mild exercises such as crunches, sit-ups, push-ups and maybe even an early morning run will help your overall spirit and frame of mind by awakening your muscles and reminding your body how great it feels to stay active.

By combining all of these steps or concentrating on only a few, your body should be well on its way to a more relaxed and recharged state. By adding some relaxation techniques like yoga and meditation, your stress load should diminish, leaving you with more energy for those things that are most important to you.

33-Tips on Coping with Stress in Your Life

Stress comes and goes, often sparked by certain factors in our lives, such as work, chores and obligations, finances, and so forth. Take a relaxing bath to relieve stress in your life.If no stress relief tips are followed, stress can grow to the extreme. Thankfully, stress relief tips come naturally for a number of people. From reading and taking time to relax to exercising and more, stress relief and stress management can be achieved.

Here our readers share a wealth of stress relief tips that work for them. If you need a boost in the right direction to escape your own stress, consider these stress relief tips and relaxation tips. Recharge your batteries and renew your life while coping with stress and finding ways to escape the hard times.

Tips on How to Manage Stress or Deal with Stress in Your Life

“Stress Tip: To manage stress — whenever I feel stress — I ALWAYS try to get out my frustrations — whatever they are — if I am angry or upset… they I try to get those emotions out.  It’s not healthy to keep them in.  If I am sad–then I will cry.  I have learned that bottling up feelings is just not healthy.” – Shelley Krush, NV

“To manage stress – I try to make more organization in my life. This is very difficult for someone like me.  I start with buying a calendar that you can keep in your purse and making myself write down everything that I have to do for the day.”
– Diane Baum, MI

“Tip – How to manage or deal with stress in your life- Keep a sense of humor, laughing is healthier then yelling.”
– Katharine Davis, IA

Meditate or take the time to enjoy nature. (Photo courtesy of morgueFile)“To manage stress – never be afraid to ask for help.”
– Kathy Scott, ID

“To deal with stress: I find that keeping lists and staying organized helps me deal with daily stress. I get pulled in many directions and my list helps me prioritize things. There are always surprises that come up and when they do if I find them overwhelming, I walk away to a quiet area and take deep breaths. That helps me get in control again and makes it easier to face the problems.”
– Heather Simone, GA

“Tip to manage or deal with stress in your life — listen to the iPod.”
– Kendra Gillilan, CO

“My tip for handling stress – I have a new mantra that I say to myself. It is ‘I will be ok each and every day.’ I have this written in Lipstick on my bathroom mirror.”
– Kelly Ann Thuet, MO

“Don’t worry about things you can’t control.”
– Susan Varney, ME

“How to manage or deal with stress in your life – I listen to guided imagery and do yoga.”
– Carol Drury, MD

“When you go to bed, imagine you are wrapping up all the day’s bad things into a trash bag then tossing it away into the trash. Corny, but it does help.”
– Debbie Christie, KY

“Stress tip: I try to do one relaxing thing each day such as read a book or take a bubble bath.”
– Alecia Gibson, MN

“Manage stress tip:  Spend plenty of moments throughout the day focusing on the pleasurable aspects of life.  For example:  looking at/smelling a flower, watching the aquarium fish, smelling the perfume on your wrist, smile at self in mirror, stroke your child’s hair, kiss them on the forehead, and whisper, ‘I love you’.”
– Doreen Kuneck, CA

“Stress tip: comfortable clothes (loungewear), good movie or talk with my husband, and a great wine and just relax.”
– Julia Smith, OH

“I like to take a nice long bubble bath with candles and some relaxing music when I’m stressed.”
– Jessica Lewis, NC

“My stress tip is quick and it’s free. Just take some very deep breathes and try to relax. Then count to 10. By the time you get to 5 you should feel better.”
– Donna Cohn, MA

“To deal with stress: It is important to take time out for oneself to get some rest and refresh oneself.  When I am stressed, I will ask my husband to watch the kids to that I can read or nap or finish up something that is bugging me and needs to get done.  I also like to focus on how I overcame stressful situations in the past.”
– Michelle Henriquez, CA

– Aprill Marie Coleman, MS

“I deal with stress in my life by taking long walks with my favorite Christian jams. They help me to get the focus off of me and back onto God.”
– Laura Griggs, TX

“Stress tip – I make sure I get at least 30 minutes of pure alone time every day.  With 6 kids, it’s not always so easy to de-stress.”
– Tammy Marshall, CA

“Stress tip – when life gets you down just buy yourself a bottle of tequila… or just listen to the song.”
– Samantha Pruitt, CA

“I do a form of deep breathing in one nostril and out the other then do certain acupuncture with my fingernails while I deep breathe. I indulge in a brownie if really stressed.”
– Rosanne Morrison, IL

“Stress tip: If you are stressed, calm yourself by concentrating on the sound of your own breathing, and think about something that made you happy.”
–  Kayce Crews, TN

“Stress tip – I find that just calling up a friend to talk helps me to manage my stress.”
– Jean Hallinan, NY

“Tip – How to manage or deal with stress in your life – Do not let the things I cannot control bother me.”
– Joan Olson, FL

“How to manage or deal with stress in your life: Close my eyes and imagine everything the way I would like it to be.  It excites me and motivates me to do what I can to change the situation.”
– James Edward Anderson, NY

“I go running.”
– Ed Nemmers, IL

“Reading is a great stress reducer! Any book on any subject works, as long as it transports you from your present situation to a place where you do not have to think about the pain of life.”
– Kayleigh Ann Farris, CA

“To deal with stress I take the vitamin, Melatonin. To reduce stress, I try to keep everything in my house orderly and tidy – that way I don’t get stressed out about a mess!”
– Suzy Horvath, OR

“Tip – How to manage or deal with stress in your life — Exercise! And plenty of sleep. ”
– Heather Slater, WA

“When I am stressed I usually work out! It makes me feel better!”
– Jennifer Tanner, GA

“I think the best stress relief for me is sitting in a nice hot bubble bath, and my tub has jets so that really helps with the physical stress. For emotion stress I sit down with a good book and escape into it.”
– Michael Pease, VT

“I read books to deal with stress, take long hot baths, watch YouTube, play games on the computer & listen to Paolo Nutini.”
– Marcy Lynn Strahan, TX

“To manage or deal with stress in your life, pray.”
– Janet L. Mahurin, OK

Tips on How to Relax and Free Yourself from Stress

A hot bath can help to wash your cares away.

Many women – and even men – tend to agree on a lot of really great tips for how to relax and free yourself from stress. From hot bubble baths and candles to music, reading, or even a glass of wine, many people find comfort in these common things.

However, a number of additional tips to relax and free yourself from stress could make all the difference in your life. Consider these tips for escaping stress and finding relaxation in your life.

Reader Suggestions on How to Relax and Escape Stress in Your Life

“I take a long bath with candles and soft music.”
– Theresa Clift

“I have found that NOTHING beats a good relaxing bubble bath with a wonderful book. That is how I relax.”
– Shelley Krush, NV

“To relax – At the end of the day, before bed I reward myself with a nice hot bubble bath, complete with candle light.  Number two for relaxing is a candy bar and a novel.  Number three is just the candy bar….am I suppose to admit that?  Number four is muscle flexing – making a fist and opening my hand, opening and closing…”
– Diane Baum, MI

“My tip is to always before going to bed, place wet cold pack or wash cloth over eyes, it will help you get rid of dark colors under your eyes.”
– Mary Teneyck, FL

“To relax – hot bubble bath and a good book.”
– Kathy Scott, ID

“To free yourself of stress: If I have had a stressful day, I try to make some time for myself at the end of the day. I light lavender candles and try to take a soothing bubble bath. That quiet time will really calm your nerves and help you handle things.”
– Heather Simone, GA

“I pamper myself each morning with scented lotion. Depending on my mood, I may pick something earthy, sweet, floral or spicy. The aromatherapy starts my day off on a positive note.”
– Mary Beth Isaac, NC

“Relaxation  tip:  Light a lot of tealight candles, play new age music and sip a steaming mug of herbal tea.”
– Doreen Kuneck, CA

– Aprill Marie Coleman, MS

“When I want to relax, I usually draw a hot bath, put on some soft music and pour myself a glass of wine.”
– Laura Griggs, TX

“I find that just putting on my favorite music and drinking a glass of wine always helps me to feel relaxed and takes my stress away!”
– Jean Hallinan, NY

“Tip – How to relax and free yourself from stress – Take a few minutes and take a walk in the park or have a hot cup of tea and read a good book.”
– Joan Olson, FL

“How to relax and free yourself from stress: Closing my eyes and imagining the perfect life / situation, and really FEELING how I’d feel in that situation. That’s the exciting part.”
– James Edward Anderson, NY

“Tip – How to relax and free yourself from stress: get one or two massages a week to avoid stress on your wallet… go to a reputable massage therapy school, go to the school clinic.”
– Amy Lutz, NM

A hot bath can help to wash your cares away.

“Tip – How to relax and free yourself from stress — Exercise really helps me relax!”
– Heather Slater, WA
“How to relax and free yourself from stress  – A long hot bubble bath with scented candles.“
– Jennifer Tanner, GA

“My tip is to do breathing exercises to relax. I was taught to breathe in for a count of two then breathe out for another count of two actually counting as you go. I was told this helps with pain management also.”
– Joni Chadwell, PA

“I take a bubble bath to relax.”
– Floyd Jenkins, FL

“I like to sit down with a good book and just ignore the rest of the world.  This gives me great mental stimulation without any pressure to “’perform’ at something.  Plus it is something that is ‘just for me’.  I could get lost in a book for hours on end.”
– Melanie Horan, NJ

“To relax and free yourself from stress, take a warm shower and lay down and read a good book.”
– Janet L. Mahurin, OK

Try Meditation with Movement to Change Your Life

Of course you’ve heard that a positive attitude can do wonders for your life and your achievements. Beautiful views can enhance meditation. (photo courtesy of Lisa Solonynko, did you know that a positive attitude can also help you achieve your fitness goals when coupled with meditation and exercise?

When you focus on body, mind, and spirit, you get so much more out of your workout. Whether you want to improve a certain aspect of your life, kick a bad habit, or change your life’s direction altogether, meditation with movement can help you get there in a healthy and empowering way.

Ellie Peterson has taught exercise classes to every age group. Through her own program, she has raised her children as a single mother, quit smoking, lost weight, graduated from college, remarried, and started her own business. She says she has learned to love and accept herself, which is something that will guide her for a lifetime.

With both a book and instructional DVD on the market, Ellie Peterson wants to promote the helpful concept of meditation with movement. She kindly shares some tips and additional information, exclusively for Life Love Beauty readers.
Free your mind, body, and spirit with meditation. (photo courtesy of
Q. Life Love Beauty – Could you please tell us some ways that meditation can change or improve someone’s life?  
A. Ellie Peterson – Meditation while moving can change lives because the power of the person’s mind, body and being are working together. Meditation has helped me be aware of who I am so that I can embrace life and love myself. Being at ease with myself takes a lot of the stress out of every day living.
Q. Life Love Beauty – Can meditation help the following things, or others?

Beauty of nature can enhance your experience. (photo courtesy of Ellie Peterson – Meditating while moving has helped myself and others:

– maintain a positive “can do” attitude
– release stress and tension
– replace bad habits like smoking with positive habits
– increase self-esteem and improve self-image
– feel energized and excited about life
Q. Life Love Beauty – How often should people meditate if wanting to change or improve something in their life? Daily / Weekly? How long?

A. Ellie Peterson – I have found that meditating while moving works best everyday.  If a person can apply the technique for even 5 minutes that is helpful.  We wouldn’t think of not eating every day. So it is with the movement meditation.  For the body to reap benefits, I recommend working out at least 20 – 30 minutes a day.

Beautiful views can enhance meditation. (photo courtesy of Lisa Solonynko,

Q. Life Love Beauty – Does more meditation = better results, more goals achieved?  

A. Ellie Peterson – Change occurs slowly – one movement and one affirmation mantra at a time.  People need to listen to their own bodies and self talk. The meditation provides clarity and allows a person’s own answers to come. Living in the present moment can be a result.
Q. Life Love Beauty – How do people get started in meditation? Can they just do it, or will they be better off to take a class or read a book, etc.?  

A. Ellie Peterson – It depends on how a person learns.  I recommend trying meditation on your own by reading a book and then perhaps attending a class if the person wants more hands on instructions.


About the Expert:
Ellie Peterson is an author and meditation / exercise instructor who focuses on positive affirmations, yoga movements, and aerobics in her DVD, Power of Positive Aerobics, and in her book, Meditative Movements – Affirm Your Self, Move Your Body, Change Your Life. For more information or to purchase her book or DVD, visit Ellie’s Meditative Movements online at

Golf Lovers Gift Guide – Great Gifts for Guys and Girls Who Love Golf

Golfers open the door to gift giving with a well-known hobby that welcomes many different kinds of equipment, accessories, apparel items, books, gift sets, and more. Many companies offer special gift ideas for golfers – and a number of them have special gift offerings for female golfers as well as the men. FLOR Putt Up or Shut Up Putting GreenFrom a clever golf book to a new putter and everything in between, open your mind to the possibilities and hopefully you will find that perfect golf gift for your golfer.

Consider these golf related gifts for the golfer in your life. We’ve looked high and low to find a fine selection of gifts for guys and girls who love golf, and we’ve come up with this list of golf accessories, golf apparel, golf books, golf gift sets, golf equipment, or golf training and excursions.

Golf Lovers Gift Guide – Golf Accessories & Apparel

Golfers love golf accessories for the simple fact that companies keep coming out with better and more advanced items. Golf apparel has also come a long way, with the latest performance wear featuring lightweight, moisture-zapping fabric. Golfers can even enjoy golf related jewelry, like cufflinks, which are a conversation piece as much as a reminder of the golfer’s pastime. Consider these exciting golf accessories and apparel for your male or female golfer.

Adidas a381 adilibria L Sunglasses, available at

ADIDAS Adivista a165 Matt Copper 6051 Sunglasses, available at

ADIDAS Golf Eyewear

ADIDAS Women’s Adilibria Golf Eyewear features a fashionable look coupled with a functional design. These hot mahogany-colored shades are available in size large or small, and offer:

  • Double-snap Nose Bridge Technology with Traction Grip (adjustable nose piece)
  • LST Lens Technology (harmonizes light fluctuation to protect eyes; enhances color contrast between the horizon, your ball and the green, eliminating eyestrain)
  • Performance Insert Compatible (accepts a prescription insert so you don’t need to worry about your vision)
  • Quick Release Hinge (no screws to loosen or tighten)

ADIDAS Men’s Adivista Golf Eyewear delivers supreme fashion with true fit and utility for golfers. These dynamic golf shades feature:

  • Light Stabilization Technology (LST) lens tints
  • De-centered Vision Advantage PC Lens
  • Rx Ready
  • Golf-specific Lens Design
  • Lightweight SPX Construction
  • Tri.Fit System
  • Double-Snap Nose Bridge
  • New Temple Shape
  • Quick Release Hinge

Cost: from $119.80 – $159.95

Buy Golf Eyewear: at

Adidas Adilibria S Women’s Multisport Sunglasses – $119.95

Adidas a381 adilibria L Women’s Sunglasses – $119.80

ADIDAS Adivista a164 Black 6050 Sunglasses – $129.95

ADIDAS Adivista a165 Matt Copper 6051 Sunglasses – $159.95

Fore River Bag - Canvas Tote

Fore River Bag – Canvas Tote

This fashionable golf tote is the perfect size (7.5” X 6.5” X 3.5) to carry around your phone, keys, money, spare golf balls, etc. A wide selection of colors and patterns are available for each handmade, hand-printed bag.

Cost: $49.00

Buy the Bag: online at

PowerSox by GoldToe

Gold Toe PowerSox Anatomical Performance Fit Socks with Left / Right Technology

Keep your feet comfortable while playing sports with the anatomically correct design of Power Sox APF. These socks are made to specifically fit the contours of each your left and right foot by providing extra cushion where you need it and support for your arch – don’t worry there is an “L” and a “R” on each sox in case you are confused.

A feature that you will immediately notice is the elimination of the bothersome seam at the toe.  Since Power Sox is a Gold Toe brand, you can be sure you are getting a quality product. Power Sox come in a variety of colors so you can match with them with your golf bag, tennis shoes, or dodgeball uniform.

Cost: from $10.99 to 26.99

Buy PowerSox: Visit for ordering or store locations.

Golf Crest Cufflinks

Golf Crest Cufflinks

We all know golfers clean up nice, so a fine set of golf themed cufflinks may be just the gift for your golfer.

These cufflinks feature two crossed clubs above a golf ball with a crown centered above. Set by Umo Lorenzo.

Cost: $21.95

Buy Cufflinks: online at

Crossed Clubs Golf Golfer Silver Cufflinks with Presentation Box, available at

Crossed Clubs Golf / Golfer Silver Cufflinks with Presentation Box

Crossed golf club cufflinks offer an elegant way to show off a love of golf. Golfers can enjoy their game even while they aren’t playing with these lovely rhodium-plated silver cufflinks.

Cost: $34.99

Buy Cufflinks: Online at

Sterling Silver Golf Ball & Tee Chain Bar Cuff Links, available at

Sterling Silver Golf Ball & Tee Chain Bar Cuff Links

These golf cufflinks are adorable, featuring a sterling silver golf ball with tee that is actually the back of the cufflink. The design is eyecatching and classy – a perfect addition to any golfer’s wardrobe.

Cost: $44.99

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Cartoon Golf clubs for the Golfer in Your Life with Presentation Box, available at

Cartoon Golf Clubs for the Golfer in Your Life with Presentation Box

These cartoon style golf cufflinks are of rhodium-plated silver construction and make a nice addition to any golfer’s cufflink collection. The design features a comical fat golf bag with clubs sticking out.

Cost: $28.99

Buy Cufflinks: online at

Check out other gifts for golfers, such as golf books, golf gift sets, golf equipment, and golf excursions and events…

How to Get Warm and Stay Warm without Turning up the Heat

In the winter and the cooler months of the year, chilly weather makes it difficult for us to keep our homes and our bodies as warm as we’d like. Turning up the heat is the easy solution, but it is not the most economical solution. Instead, why not try some of these suggestions for how to get warm and stay warm this winter!

Rather than running up your electric bill unnecessarily, consider being smarter about how to stay warm at home. When it comes to outdoor winter recreation, try these tips for staying warm outside. Here are 15 tips for getting warm and staying warm either outside or inside without turning up the heat:

1. Drink a cup of hot tea, coffee, or hot chocolate. This is a great option for at home, at work, or on the commute in between. Warm beverages are a fabulous way to warm yourself from heat to toe.

2. Go for a walk. Get your body moving and get your blood flowing. You can warm yourself with only a short walk at home or at work.

3. Get up, move around, and do some chores. Just like taking a walk, you can warm up by moving and doing things, and also by taking your mind off the cold. Plus, you are getting things done that you need to do anyway – good job!

4. Wear socks and shoes. Experts say a lot of heat escapes through your head and feet, so wear socks and shoes when possible to keep yourself warm all over. If you have wool socks, those are better yet!

5. Dress in layers. If you dress in several layers, you can always add more layers or take something off to readjust your body temperature. Layers are great because this form of dressing provides flexibility and an easy way to get comfortable in the winter temperatures.

6. Wear a knit hat. As mentioned earlier, heat escapes from the head as well as the feet. Wear a nice warm hat or snowcap when possible to keep the warmth from escaping your body.

7. Sit under an electric blanket for a little while. Although you are still using heat, you’re only heating what’s necessary for you to stay warm. Just make sure you read and follow the safety instructions on your heated blanket.

8. Eat some warm soup or broth. Whether inside or out, eating warm soup or warm broth can really warm your body from head to toe. Enjoy a tasty meal or snack to help you stay warm!

9. Close doors to rooms you aren’t using and close the heating vents for those rooms. Keep your energy usage as efficient as possible by not wasting electricity on rooms that are empty.

10. Place “draft dodgers” or door snakes next to all exterior doors. Draft dodgers are long and skinny beanbags, sometimes shaped as animals and other times shaped like a long skinny tube, to block the draft from entering your house. Place one at the door between your garage and your home, place one at your front door, and one at your back door.

11. Try using those hand warmer packets. If you plan to be doing any hiking, hunting, fishing, sledding, skiing, outdoor ice-skating, or other outdoor activities, hand warmers can really provide comfort by helping to avoid freezing fingers.

12. Do some wash and run the dryer. You can kill two birds with one stone by getting your laundry out of the way and also warming up your home.

13. Bake something for dinner (or cookies!) in your oven.
The best time to use this technique is when it is actually time to make a meal or a dessert or snack. No sense in using one form of electricity to avoid another, but if you’ve got to cook anyway, there’s no sense in turning on the heat too.

14. Exercise! It’s no lie – if you move around and get your heart pumping, you can raise your body temperature to a comfortable level. The bonus – you’re also helping to get in shape or stay in shape!

15. Snuggle up under blankets or inside a fleece robe. If possible, spend some quality time with a loved one, cuddled up under some blankets. You can watch a movie together, sit in front of a fireplace, or merely relax in each other’s arms.

Eating Tips to Avoid Gaining Weight During the Holidays

Each year as the air starts to get colder and the Christmas lights start springing up all around town, ovens fill with cookies, pies, and other scrumptious treats while delectable holiday dinners await.

Fears of putting on a few extra pounds prey on the minds of many while most of us are too lazy to do anything about it. Want to know a secret? With some mildly altered eating habits and a bit more of a relaxed setting, you can trim down the extra pounds before the spring thaw!

Simply get the right attitude and be prepared to eat a little slower. Take your time and enjoy every mouthful… you can avoid gaining weight – and even lose a few pounds this holiday season.

– Enjoy your meal and relax while eating. Do not rush. Let your brain catch up with your stomach… you may not be as hungry as you think! Our brains tend to take about 20 minutes to register that we are full. Try telling that to our stomachs!

– Chew – Chew – Chew… Savor every bite of your food. Avoid gulping it down like someone’s trying to steal if from you. There will be plenty to go around, and if not, there’s always dessert!

– Do not eat on the run. Sit down and enjoy your food, whether it is as in-depth as a full-course meal or as simple and quick as a cookie or two. Take your time, chew and just eat. Don’t drive, don’t talk on the phone, don’t have a race to see who can fit more cookies in his mouth. Savor every bite and relax.

– Take a break. Do something else once your meal is done and see how hungry for dessert you really are. Do not force in a piece of pie or cake just to “be polite”. Those calories won’t be thinking the same way as they cascade across your hips!

– Keep your hands out of the cookie jar unless you are sitting down casually with a glass of milk and only a few tasty treats.

– Drink more water. It may fill you up a little bit, but it also flushes out germs and keeps you healthier. Drink as much as you like, but try to maintain a habit. Your body will come to expect the extra hydration – which is also especially good for athletes who may have to compete in coming weeks.

– Don’t give in to the growl. Once in a while is OK, but teach your stomach some discipline. You eat breakfast, lunch, dinner and maybe a snack here or there. Never eat just because you are bored!

– When grabbing for seconds, go for something a bit healthier. If your choices are meat and buttery biscuits or steamed broccoli and wild rice, think about how the calories may affect your body and choose wisely. If you want, compromise and take a little bit of a few different things instead of loading up on one dish.

– Satisfy your sweet tooth with fresh fruit or a dish showcasing it. Smoothies, fruit cocktail and fruit salad are just a few ideal waist-busters.

– Share a dessert with someone instead of forcing the calories on yourself. You’ll still satisfy your sweet tooth while taking in fewer calories than you would solo.

– Ask for salad dressing on the side when eating in a restaurant. You’ll be able to pour it on the way you like instead of fishing your lettuce and carrots out of a drowning pool of Italian, Russian or whatever you select.

– Broth-based soups will generally have fewer calories than thicker, cream-based soups. Choose what you want with no regrets, but save yourself a few calories every now and again if you like chicken noodle soup, vegetable soup, or others.

– Lessen the number of cocktails or beers you pour for yourself. It is a known fact that heavy drinking will eventually cause weight gain.

– Try to avoid eating major meals two hours before you plan to go to bed and later. Chances are, your body will burn off most of the calories if you give it enough time… unless your gorge yourself, so try to plan your evening with meals in mind.

– Make a plan and stick to it! Once you make a commitment to yourself, don’t let the little devil on your left shoulder talk you out of it. No, one bite, one cookie, or one dish of ice cream won’t hurt… just this once. But listen every time your stomach growls and you might be kissing your new eating plan goodbye.

Carefully balance your eating habits with some discipline and healthier baking techniques. Add some exercise, fresh air, better sleeping habits and a more active lifestyle and you are well on your way to getting or maintaining that fabulous figure.

Remember that it isn’t a matter of what you eat, when you eat, how you eat, or how much you eat, but rather a combination of all of those. Make a goal for yourself and stick to that goal, so the calories don’t start sticking to your sides!

Check out some healthy cooking and baking tips to keep your routine on a roll.