What Kind of Women Go After Married Men… and Why?

If you wonder what kind of woman goes after another woman’s husband, you are not alone. Some women go after married men on purpose, over and over again. Find out why.Why is it that some women are attracted to married men while others strictly only go after men who are single and fully available? It seems women who pursue married men may have a different mentality when it comes to love and relationships. These women may not want all the same life goals and dreams as women who long to be married with two kids and a dog and the white picket fence.

So what kind of women go after married men, and why? It may surprise you, but all romantic involvements aside, you may not know these women who pursue married men from your own friends and acquaintances. They may have the same interests as you, they may be involved in the same activities, clubs, or sports teams. Women who go after married men may not act or look any different at all from those who steer clear of other women’s men. Surprised? Don’t be. The difference typically tends to be in the way these women think and react emotionally.

Words of Reasoning from a Real-Life Woman Who’s Dated Married Men
As for the why, it seems that several reasons exist behind these women’s decisions to pursue other women’s husbands. An anonymous woman shares that she has engaged in romantic relationships with three married men, but keeps her love life completely private from her friends, family, and social circles.

Married men may become more attractive to the women who only go after men who are taken.“I do not consider myself a ‘home wrecker’ or even ‘the other woman,’ though those are the common names for women like me,” she says. “There is an allure to dating a married man. For starters, he is unavailable. Women always want what they can’t have, and married men are about as off-the-market as you can get. (Besides gay men, of course, but that gets tricky.) There is more of a chase aspect with trying to date a married man than there is with trying to date a single guy.

“More importantly, even when you are dating the married man, you’re still not entirely with him. There is still some effort involved. Your actions together are also considered taboo – so there is a thrill in knowing you are being secretive and cannot get caught.”

The anonymous woman adds, “Unlike some women who date married men, my biggest fear is if they ever say they want to leave their wife. Part of the reason I date married men is because there is a lack of commitment. I’m not looking to get married, and he already is, so the relationship stays in that ‘fun’ phase and doesn’t get serious. If it starts getting serious, that’s when I split.”

The Psychology behind Women Who Only Date Married Men
According to some therapists and psychologists, some women target married men for their dating relationships on a regular basis. One therapist was kind enough to share some of the psychology behind why these women go after only married men.

“I have been a family therapist for over thirty years and have seen many women who have chosen to date and to have relationships with only married men,” says family therapist and author Carleton Kendrick Ed.M., LCSW. “I cannot and would not generalize about why all such women make such a choice. That said, in my professional, anecdotal experience, however, I will quote the words of one such client of mine that addresses an essential reason behind these women’s choices of dating and having affairs with only married men:

‘When I’m with a married man, I experience his intense desire for me and the excitement and thrills of a secret, romantic relationship while never having to deal with all the downsides, drudgery, boredom and responsibilities of being in a marriage with him that his wife has to suffer. I get expensive getaways and gifts and she gets to do his laundry.’”

Commonalities and Differences between Women Who Pursue Married Men and Husbands Who Cheat
It seems that some women and men are almost programmed in a way to never cheat on their spouse or significant other, while others may stray from their partners despite the bond of marriage. Some women pursue married men on purpose while others may simply feel a romantic attraction to the person in general. So, when it all comes down to it, what are the similarities and differences of married men who cheat and the women who pursue them?

Paul A. Falzone:
I think men tend to have more of a wandering eye by nature. But it’s the women who specifically are drawn by more than just a wandering eye. Perhaps it’s the excitement or the taboo of pursuing a married man. But really, if you need that type of excitement in your life, take up skydiving — it’s much safer.

Scott Haltzman, MD:
Sexual desires are natural, as are the desires to be loved and cared for. Therefore, I may guess that it is intrinsic in human nature of seek out heterosexual contacts that will provide for these basic needs. What makes humans exceptional is their capacity to suppress their animal desires, and to reach for some higher level of functioning to be able to sustain some form of society and community. Individuals who have affairs often have difficulties in suppressing some of these urges, either by believing that they are exempt from societal norms because they’re so special or their situation is so unique, believing that somehow their ability to keep their commitments to their wives or themselves is outside of their control, or they simply don’t have the mental pools to be able to resist impulses. Rationalization is a defense mechanism, which allows people to do things that they know are wrong. Men tend to rationalize that because their needs are not being met at home, they are justified to have an affair. Women that will have affairs with men will also justify their behavior by saying that these men deserve better, and that they are helping the situation out by having an affair.

About the Experts:
Paul A. Falzone is the CEO of The Right One and Together Dating which boasts more than 60 locations and is growing. Under his leadership, the Company ranked 31st in the 2007 Boston Business Journal’s “Fastest Growing Private Companies in Massachusetts” and was named to Inc Magazine’s list of Fastest Growing Private Companies in America with a three-year growth rate of 133 percent. For more information, you can visit http://www.therightone.com.

Carleton Kendrick Ed.M., LCSW is a family therapist and author of “Take Out Your Nose Ring, Honey, We’re Going to Grandma’s.” He received his undergraduate and graduate degrees from Harvard University and he is a licensed psychotherapist, noted national speaker, social commentator and author.

Editor’s Note: Life Love Beauty does not condone or encourage affairs or cheating in relationships. The opinions are those of the experts and this article is meant for information purposes only.

Seasonal Wedding Flowers

Tony Martin considers the best seasonal wedding flowers.

Consider the season and time of year as you plan to select your wedding flowers for bouquets and arrangements.The task of planning a wedding is known for being one of the most difficult to do. Not only must you find the perfect dress, the perfect cake and, of course, the perfect man, but there are the smaller details to contend with and often these are the most important. One such details are the flowers and floral centerpieces. The flowers chosen at the wedding will feature in every photo, must match with the wedding accessories and are the bride’s closest companion during the ceremony.

With the right flowers you can make your wedding even more beautiful and add a touch of personality and glamour to the occasion. Although in today`s world we can have flowers all year round in all different colours, the flowers are often in better condition and more affordable, if those in season are chosen for the ceremony.

Tulips are great seasonal wedding flowers for spring nuptials.If you are having a spring ceremony, it is common to use pastel shade or yellows and purples as these are the colours traditionally associated with the regeneration of spring. Flowers like hyacinths, freesias and narcissus are typical favourites for spring bouquets, as they are in a range of jolly colours and their long stalks make them ideal to hold during the walk up the aisle. Tulips are a modern favourite for spring weddings, as their greenery can be cut to have a sharp bottom for an edgy contemporary look. In spring the abundance of flowers means you can be really creative with both the bouquet and the table arrangements. In many cases the flowers speak for themselves and a simple arrangement of similarly-coloured but different spring flowers assembled in a piece of oasis can look elegant and fresh.

Gerber daisies are a colorful and fun wedding flower option for summer weddings.Early summer is a fantastic time for flowers, so the world is really your oyster in this season. A simple collection of sunflowers, or brightly coloured gerberas can look beautiful and radiant against the white dress. Roses and lilies are also obvious choices for this time of year and are delicate and romantic choices. A simple but effective table decoration is roses simply strewn along the centre of the table. Some wedding designers have also started taking large glass bowls and just filling them with candles and floating lilies for an elegant design that will light up the tables and the room come dusk.

Adding berries into bouquets and wedding flower arrangements is a nice seasonal touch.Autumnal bouquets can be carnations or dahlias in warm oranges that contrast against the dark greens and browns of autumn foliage. This is the season to be really inventive with centerpieces as you can use pumpkins as vases, or place cloved oranges, conkers, pine cones and cinnamon sticks amongst autumnal flower arrangements. If a seasonal wedding with warm wines and hearty food, these kinds of centerpieces really evoke all the senses, with tasty meals, strong smells of berries and cones and the visual delights of the oranges and browns.

Roses are a classic winter wedding seasonal flower choice for brides.Winter bouquets are traditionally red and white roses with dark green foliage, or sprays of holly and mistletoe for added festive cheer. Centerpieces look fantastic with festive pine cones and poinsettia arranged around thick red candles and sprayed gold pine cones and sticks can look stylish when placed in a vase. By adding berries and cinnamon you can give a real sense of festive cheer!

No matter what season your wedding is in, the most important thing is to consider your wedding colour scheme and ensure the flowers match. However, by incorporating seasonal flowers – either by getting them locally picked or getting flowers online – you can save your money, ensure you are getting top-quality stems and help you to fit in with the season around you.

About the Author:

Tony Martin writes regularly for a wide range of travel and fashion websites. Over the course of his career, Tony has contributed to a wide range of in house and national magazines on subjects as diverse as music, gadgets and home decor together with his main focus which is the travel sector.

Naughty Nighties – Bring out the Bad Girl Inside

They may not all be willing to admit it, but even good girls have a bad side. And by bad, we mean sexy, naughty, and mysterious. With the right attitude and a few select additions to your wardrobe, you can ignite your love life with time to spare.

It’s been said that every woman should own a black lace bra and matching thong or panty. Why not a sexy chemise, babydoll, or naughty lingerie set? By adding these simple, arousing garments to your repertoire, you can spice things up in the bedroom at a moment’s notice. You can tote along your suggestive attire on your next vacation as a couple to bring even more sensuality and erotic desire to your trip. Enhance any common weeknight by debuting lusty lingerie shortly after dinner… or before, if you’re feeling especially frisky!

Sexy Styles
When it comes to choosing a new piece of lingerie, the options can undoubtedly seem overwhelming, regardless if you are a regular shopper or venturing into the sexy attire world for the very first time. The best thing to do in this case may be to consider all the styles available to you and determine which options fit your own personal style and your mate’s likes.

If you are new to lingerie, you can start out with something subtle, simple, and sexy, like a long silk or satin nightgown with slinky spaghetti straps and a slit, or a lacy or chiffon babydoll with a matching panty or thong. Babydolls work great as sexy and seductive nighties, as many of them look just like sundresses that are a bit shorter than usual. Nightgowns in black or leopard print deliver a great, sexy statement without baring all, while design options like crisscross straps, lacing, and other adornments contribute toward the “WOW” factor. You can also find adorable tank tops and panty or boy shorts sets with a naughty or sexy spin if you prefer that style to a nightie.

As a simple tip, you can also pair a new piece of lingerie with a silky robe, wrap, or kimono to give you that extra element of feeling a bit more covered. Choose a garment as seductive as you like, and if you feel it’s just a little too sultry, find a nice wrap or robe to round out your outfit.

For more experienced lingerie shoppers, you may consider quite the opposite – what don’t you have in your collection so far? You may want to consider the degree of naughty you desire. Will you be seeking a sheer set or a rather revealing item that bares all, or perhaps a sheer set that leaves a little to the imagination? Your choices may also revolve around whether you intend to accent your outfit with sexy stockings, a garter belt and thigh highs, or some other erotic accessory.

Costumes and Role Play
If your relationship tends to be a bit more on the adventurous side, perhaps you’ll want to introduce a naughty costume into your bedroom. The sexy cop, jailhouse inmate, schoolgirl, nurse, and French maid hold fast as favorites, but the possibilities truly are endless once you start browsing for an exciting and erotic costume. These costumes offer an especially nice change of pace around Halloween, but consider donning one on any random night for some extra fun and excitement.

Even if you don’t opt for a lingerie costume, you can still play the part. Choose some sexy lingerie and seduce your mate with ease. Play up the elements of surprise and supreme desire. Play hard to get. Be chased. Be desired. Be in control. Take your relationship to new levels by allowing your sexy and naughty nighties to liberate you from what is normal and commonplace.

No matter what style you choose, remember that the lingerie will give you that special boost, but it’s up to you to follow through and enjoy the sexy, desired feeling you’re sure to experience!

Flirty Fabrics
Once you select a style of lingerie, prepare yourself for endless possibilities in color, texture, and fabric. You may also wish to consider the fabric first, before the style, – especially if your heart is set on lace, satin, silk, sheer chiffon, leather, fishnet, or another favorite lingerie fabric. You may also consider lingerie that combines different fabric types for a special look, or create your own clever juxtapositions with sexy accessories.

You may also discover that some styles are available in a crocheted or knitted construction. These items typically show a bit more skin than thicker or darker fabrics, but they can be a lot of fun to wear, even outside the bedroom. An adorable crocheted babydoll may be able to double as a super short dress that you can wear over your bathing suit the next time you visit the beach or the pool. Use your judgment to determine if there are any other appropriate ways to repurpose the garments!

As you think about the fabrics, keep in mind that often-sheer fabrics like lace, mesh, and chiffon tend to show off more skin than satins and silks. Leather and fishnet getups tend to be downright naughty if you’re in the mood. All these are surely styles that anyone can enjoy wearing once they reach the right mindset. Use your discretion as you consider all the lingerie options available to you, but remember that lingerie is crafted to enhance your experiences and your enjoyment – and of course, the desire and satisfaction of your significant other!

As you shop, keep in mind that you’ll want to pick a garment that makes you feel sexy without making you feel uncomfortable. Many nighties offer ultimate sex appeal without showing off your most private parts. Some chemises and nighties offer a slightly longer length with a side slit that gives a flirty glimpse of your goods without showing off too much at once. Choose a garment that you find attractive and you will be excited to try it out. Also, don’t over-think things. Your tastes in lingerie will likely grow and expand as you become more and more accustomed to wearing sexy attire in your bedroom.

What to Do if You Have a Crush on a Married Man

Sometimes we just can’t help the way we feel. We may find chemistry between ourselves and another person, even if we know that person is not a good match for us. We might have a crush on someone else’s significant other or spouse, all the while knowing that they should be off limits to us based on their relationship status of “taken.”

If you find that you have a crush on a married man, or even someone else’s boyfriend, you may feel helpless in thinking about what you should do. Emotions run deep and it’s not always easy or immediately possible to make yourself feel one way or stop feeling another way. If you find that you have a crush on a married man, consider these tips from relationship and dating professionals Paul A. Falzone and Scott Haltzman, MD, to help you take control of your emotions.

Q. – What is the best thing to do if you find you have a crush on a married man?

Paul A. Falzone: Run! There’s absolutely nothing to be gained by pursuing a married man no matter how exciting it may seem. The bottom line is, do you really want to break up a marriage and, depending on the situation, separate a man from his children and half of everything he owns (if not more)?

Scott Haltzman, MD: Remember that just because you have a strong attraction to somebody, doesn’t mean that that person has to be in your life romantically. The absolute best advice to give to anyone who finds herself having a crush on a married man is to avoid all interactions that produce any type of intimacy. Don’t sit alone at the lunch table if you know that he’ll be coming by during that time; don’t stop in his office when you know other people will be within earshot; always keep your interactions with that person professional and distant. You may feel tempted to form a close friendship simply because he is “a good person.”  Remember that there are many good people in this world, and the fact that he is married, and attractive, makes an off-limits to you.

Q. What are the chances that a married man will leave his wife for another woman?

Paul A. Falzone:
Very slim. Again, you’re asking a man to walk away from his family and take a major financial hit. Even if he does leave, you’re probably going to be resented by his ex-wife and kids as the wedge that broke up a family. Perhaps even your married man, once he’s yours, will resent you at times — especially if things don’t go well between you two.

Scott Haltzman, MD:
Divorce statistics tell us that women are likely to leave men two thirds to three quarters of the time. In my own clinical experience, however, virtually the only time that a man will leave his wife is if there is another woman in the wings. It is true that men frequently feel unappreciated by their wives, and one of the greatest attractions of extramarital affairs to men is the feeling that the woman that they are with appreciates them much more than their own right. It’s also probably true that the woman he is having an affair with his more interested in sexual interactions with him. However, no woman should believe that a married man will leave his wife simply because he has begun a torrid affair with her, or even because he is expressing love feelings for her. A man’s sense of obligation on duty to his family is often much stronger than his selfish desires to find a new woman.

Q. What should you do if a married man is flirting with you? What if you catch yourself flirting with a married man?

Paul A. Falzone: There’s nothing wrong with a little flirting as long as both people recognize it for what it is and don’t cross the line.

Q. Is there such a thing as innocent flirting when it involves someone who is married?

Paul A. Falzone: There’s more than one Jack for every Jill. So, do you really need to go after somebody else’s Jack? Sure, it may be exciting to sample somebody else’s dessert. But if it means that innocent people get hurt, especially children, like I said, take up skydiving. It’s far safer in the long run.

About the Experts:
Paul A. Falzone is the CEO of The Right One and Together Dating which boasts more than 60 locations and is growing. Under his leadership, the Company ranked 31st in the 2007 Boston Business Journal’s “Fastest Growing Private Companies in Massachusetts” and was named to Inc Magazine’s list of Fastest Growing Private Companies in America with a three-year growth rate of 133 percent. For more information, you can visit http://www.therightone.com.

Scott Haltzman, MD, is the founder and editor of DrScott.com and 365Reasons.com and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men and The Secrets of Happily Married Women and The Secrets of Happy Families. Dr. Haltzman is board certified in Psychiatry and is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. He is a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry and human behavior at Brown University and the Medical Director of NRI Community Services in Woonsocket, Rhode Island. Visit Dr. Haltzman online at www.DrScott.com.

Editor’s Note: Life Love Beauty does not condone or encourage affairs or cheating in relationships. The opinions are those of the experts and this article is meant for information purposes only.

Easy Flirting Tips for Any Age

Try these easy flirting tips for any age - body language, eye contact, and more.Flirting can be a natural response or a forced action, depending on how certain people deal with the situation. If you like someone, or if they like you, flirting is almost a complete byproduct of that chemistry. While some people are shy, flirting can be easier than you think with a few basic pointers on easy flirting tips for any age.

Easy flirting tips for any age include body language, eye contact, and making an effort to ensure your crush is having a good time, is not bored, and that he or she reciprocates your feelings.

No matter if you are teens, twenties, thirties, middle-aged, mature, or anywhere in between, you can explore your love life on a deeper level by flirting with your love interests when appropriate. Use a few easy flirting tips to lure in your love and then seal the deal. To learn more about ways you can hint at your affection, consider these easy flirting tips for any age.

Easy Flirting Tips for a Coworker Crush
When you have a crush on a coworker, there’s a lot of gray area where you want to try not to complicate your work life or your business relationships. Consider these easy flirting tips for a coworker crush:
–    Proceed with caution, as you don’t want to be accused of sexual harassment.
–    Take the approach of eye contact rather than touching. Body language can be risky, so just take it easy.
–    One easy flirting tip: inspire a challenge or make up a competition. Being competitive is a great source of flirtation.
–    Compliment your coworker crush on something he or she is wearing or a project he or she has completed recently.

Easy Flirting Tips for a Classmate Crush
If you like someone in your class, whether high school, college, graduate school or otherwise, remember that students tend to gossip and you should protect yourself from letting the cat out of the bag inadvertently if you like someone. Even with easy flirting tips to guide you, your classmates might still discover your crush. Instead, why not be subtle until you are sure and then try these easy flirting tips for all ages:
–    Pass your crush a note at the end of class, or at the beginning if you are a bit more daring.
–    One easy flirting tip: Write your phone number on his or her hand.
–    Tell jokes and make casual conversation with lots of eye contact.
–    If you end up on a date together, proceed slowly but make a judgment call on hand holding and touching the back, shoulders, arm or leg at appropriate times.

Try these easy flirting tips for any age - body language, eye contact, and more.Easy Flirting Tips for a Friend Crush
If you like one of your friends, this can be a tricky relationship to try. If you are friends, realize that you may be risking the friendship if the relationship does not work out, but it can be well worth the risk in the long run if things do work out between the two of you. In fact, sometimes the best relationships and marriages form from friends that decided to date. If you like one of your friends, consider these easy flirting tips for any age:
–    Find an excuse to spend some time with just your friend and you to gauge how things go.
–    One easy flirting tip: Take a very slow approach and test the waters to see if your friend flirts with you first.
–    Eye contact and body language can be a good start here, but in small doses just in case.
–    Challenge your friend to a competition of some sort. Talk some trash, but in a flirty way.
–    Talk to your friends and see what they think. If your friends think it could work, then you can consider flirting more openly by complimenting your crush.

Easy Flirting Tips for a Blind Date
When you’re going on a blind date, you’ve pretty much thrown caution to the wind and trusted fully in whoever set you up. This can go very, very well or very, very badly. Whatever the case, if you decide you do like your blind date, you can make some moves with these easy flirting tips:
–    Be bold – hold hands or wrap your arms around your date.
–    Offer your jacket if she is cold.
–    One easy flirting tip: Offer your phone number if you like how the date is going.
–    Share a dessert together – one dish, two spoons.
–    Make an effort to sit or snuggle closer together.

No matter who your crush may be, a few easy flirting tips can turn your date into a more exciting and repeatable occasion. Easy flirting tips in a nutshell – body language, eye contact, and making an effort. Remember, a first impression can mean everything, so take your time to get to know the person, use their name when speaking to them, and make an effort to be thoughtful, courteous, and maybe even a little bit mysterious.

Romantic Birthday Letters and Sayings to Include in a Greeting Card

Romantic birthday letters are a great way to show you care.To show that special someone how much you care, include a personal note in his or her birthday card or create your own romantic birthday letters to commemorate the occasion. Romantic birthday letters and birthday cards often become cherished keepsakes, tucked away in card boxes or shoe boxes for a rainy day when they’ll be read again. Write your own romantic birthday letters and fill them with heart-felt sayings to show how much you care.

Romantic birthday letters are a great way to capture your emotions in black and white, in a tangible way that your sweetheart can enjoy for years to come. Add in a few romantic film quotes for a memorable sentiment that revisits whenever you watch a romantic movie. If you can’t be with your sweetheart on his or her actual birthday, romantic birthday letters offer a dreamy and convenient way to show your love.

Examples of Romantic Birthday Letters and Sayings
If you’d like to surprise your sweetheart with romantic birthday letters and sayings, you can make a tradition of creating a new romantic birthday letter each year. By the next year, you’ll have 365 days worth of experience to improve your sentiments. Write your romantic birthday letters on the fly or save up your thoughts and write them down as they dawn on you. If you feel particularly lost for words, consider the following romantic birthday letters for inspiration.

Romantic Birthday Letter 1:
With each passing day I adore you more and more…
While I really didn’t need a special day to tell you how I feel,
I am glad that you are mine, and I’ll love you for all time.

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Romantic birthday letters are a great way to show you care.Romantic Birthday Letter 2:
It’s your birthday again, which reminds me…
Another 365 days of loving you under my belt,
A lifetime of loving you to come….
Happy Birthday Sweetheart!

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Romantic Birthday Letter 3:
When it all comes down to it,
Your birthday is just a good excuse to tell you how I feel
Each and every day of the year.
I hope this birthday is as special as can be,
And I hope you know how much you mean to me.

If you aren’t particularly into making up your own romantic birthday letters, sayings, and phrases, consider writing a poem or quoting some romantic song lyrics or romantic film quotes. Romantic film quotes would make a great addition to any love letter, especially a collection of romantic birthday letters. If you opt to include romantic film quotes in your romantic birthday letters, you can create a volume of sweet quotes and letters by crafting a new one each year. You’ll find that these romantic birthday letters become something your sweetheart comes to look forward to over the years as a timeless tradition you can carry on till you are old and gray.

Tips for Choosing Bridal Hair Ornaments and Wedding Day Accessories for 2009 Weddings

Bridal hair ornaments and unique wedding day accessories offer a great way to showcase your individual style on the day of your marriage. From your hairstyle to your hair ornaments – veil, tiara, or barrettes – to your jewelry and other wedding accessories, you can personalize your wedding day look with ease.

Choosing bridal hair ornaments and lovely wedding day accessories can also help your quest toward something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue. Whether you borrow an antique hair pin from your grandmother or whether you purchase a new bracelet or set of earrings as something new, you can complete your wedding day look while following all the traditions of the wedding day outfit.

“2009 will be all about bold accessories and expressing your personal style and individuality,” says Nancy Jaeger, founder/publisher of USABrideWeddings.com. “Flaunt your unique look by choosing a simpler, less expensive dress, and kicking it up with affordable and fabulous bridal accessories. Forget the cookie cutter, mass-produced jewelry sets and head pieces. Go for hand-crafted, artistic accessories – these types of luxury items are not only affordable, but will give you that one-of-a-kind look!”

According to some of her research at USABrideWeddings.com, Jaeger recommends the top six trends for 2009 weddings for any bride on any budget as being:

Vintage Inspired
“The vintage inspired look includes rhodium or antique-silver hair accessories and jewelry, bird cage or visor veils, as well as outrageous feather and flower combs — all of which are a throwback to the 1920s,” Jaeger says. “The vintage look is also the perfect opportunity to incorporate family heirlooms, such as Grandma’s silver brooch – timeless pieces that can be used with the visor veils or as an embellishment on gown sashes.”

Hollywood Glam
“Big hair, big jewelry, sparkling head pieces, and tons of glitz!” Jaeger exclaims. “That is Hollywood glam at its best. Use dazzling bouquet jewelry and long dramatic beaded gloves for extra glam! Long, layered, draping necklaces, oversized earrings and bold colored stones in red and black are perfect to draw attention.”

Don’t Settle for Subtle… Chunky is in!
“Brides are choosing to accent their gowns with big, bold jewelry sets – dramatic collars, clusters, or long strands of large pearls and beads, asymmetrical looks and multi-strand drops are all great ideas,” Jaeger suggests. “Another new trend is a bare neckline with large chandelier earrings, paired with a wide, bold cuff bracelet to really make a statement – layering several smaller bracelets creates the same effect.”

Go for the Gold!
“The past year has been dubbed the return of gold bridal accessories,” Jaeger notes. “Brides are choosing darker-colored gowns in tones like champagne and dark ivory, in natural fabrics such as raw silk. Victorian style gowns accented with gold tones are also popular this season. Nothing complements these colors and textures like timeless gold jewelry. There is just something about the richness of the color gold that gives the feeling of luxury and elegance!”

Organic or Natural Pearls and Stones
“Continuing to be very hot this season is the trend to incorporate natural or ‘organic’ elements and shapes into jewelry designs,” Jaeger shares. “The natural shape and beauty of Keshi and fresh water pearls, mixed with glazed stones and dazzling Swarovski crystals, inspire exquisite bridal designs. A perfect match for a romantic destination wedding!”

Greek Goddess Style
“Want a look that’s sexy and modern, yet utterly classic?” Jaeger poses. “Go for the enchanting look of a Greek goddess-inspired style. The dress should be a long, lean and fluid silhouette or a romantic series of overlapping layers. With this look, the accessories are key to bringing it all together. Look for chunky leaf or vine patterns in a head piece or hair pins (depending on your hairstyle), as well as the jewelry. You could go with any color, but make sure it is artistic and fanciful.”

About the Expert:
Nancy Jaeger is founder/publisher of USABrideWeddings.com, a site specializing in bridal fashion. USABrideWeddings.com offers a lovely collection of tiaras, hairpins, bridal combs, and more.

Wanting What You Can’t (Or Shouldn’t) Have – What is the Attraction of Dating a Married Man?

So what is the fascination some women have with married men? Is it the thrill of the chase? The aspect of danger? The common issue of wanting what you can’t (or shouldn’t) have? Surprisingly, for women who are willing to own up to going after someone else’s husband, the allure goes well beyond all of this.

At times, some women want what they can’t or really shouldn’t have – i.e., other women’s husbands. Several reasons seem to exist for the reasoning behind why these women decide to chase after married men. This article explores the attraction of why some women enjoy dating or trying to date married men. Dating experts Dr. Gilda Carle and Toni Coleman, LCSW weigh in on the possibilities.

Lack of Commitment
For many women, the lack of commitment involved in a typical affair is an alluring draw. For those women who don’t dream of their weddings and the typical married life scenarios, an affair with a married man can seem like an exciting and low key alternative.

“They don’t want a serious relationship or a commitment (Yes, there ARE some women who don’t want to be tied down…),” says Dr. Gilda Carle, who has written books and articles on cheating with married partners.

“He is safe,” adds Toni Coleman, licensed psychotherapist and certified dating coach. “By this, I mean that she does not have to be concerned about him pressuring her for a commitment, if this is something she has an issue with. She has more control – limited time together; she is the fun person (not the one in the fox hole with him), etc.”

Chasing after Authority or Celebrity
Sometimes an age difference can be a compelling attraction, not to mention the appeal of someone with a different social status or employment status. Chasing after a married man with a higher status makes it difficult to determine where the attraction actually lies.

“He is someone who is older or in a position of authority (boss?), but is married,” Coleman poses. “She is attracted to his status, power, connections, etc. His being married – is that really the attraction? – but she doesn’t let it get in her way.”

Exciting, Secretive, and Taboo
A number of women who pursue married men do so partly for the thrill of the chase and the exciting notion that they simply cannot afford to get caught. They end up living a double life where even their closest friends and confidantes may not know the extent of their romantic involvement with a married man or men.

Despite the fact of how women could be hurting the families of these married men, the excitement, thrills, and chills tend to take the logic and empathy out of the situation.

Lavish Gifts and Luxurious Vacations
Some women simply like to be pampered and treated like a goddess. In affairs, many times they enjoy the spoils that the married men really should be offering to their wives. Women who chase after married men may become accustomed to this luxurious lifestyle over time, which can cause them to seek out more married men rather than singles.

“As the other woman, she will have a greater chance of being catered to, getting the trips and being showered with gifts,” Coleman says. “What she won’t have to deal with is an equal partnership- as she would with a guy who is available and who wants to build something together.”

“The attraction can be potent because these women will be wined and dined, and treated like queens for the short time they are with their man, without real and ugly world intervening in their fantasy,” Carle adds. “These relationships are as superficial as the fairy tales with which we have been raised.”

Revenge is Best Served Cold
It is possible that a woman will go after a married man in order to get back at someone they dated or to get back at people in general. Emotions can be especially powerful and often fuel people into doing things they may not ordinarily do.

“They are raging over a breakup from their ex who cheated on them, and they, usually unconsciously, want to get revenge on men, women, or both,” Dr. Gilda Carle suggests.

Filling a Gap in Life
Another possibility is that the woman may be chasing after a married man in order to fill a gap in her life. This may be the case for those women who come from broken homes or those who had been raised by a single mother.

“She is looking for a guy who can be the father she did not have, or had an impaired relationship with,” Coleman suggests.

About the Experts:
Dr. Gilda Carle is an internationally-known psychotherapist, relationship expert, and management consultant.  She is Match.com’s “Ask Dr. Gilda” advice columnist published on MSN.com. For more information, visit www.DrGilda.com online.

Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC, is a licensed psychotherapist, certified mentor coach, and internationally recognized dating and relationship expert and founder of Consum-mate.com. For more information, visit online at http://consum-mate.com.


Editor’s Note: Life Love Beauty does not condone or encourage affairs or cheating in relationships. The opinions are those of the experts and this article is meant for information purposes only.

Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom Dresses for 2009 Weddings

If your son or daughter is getting married this year and you are looking for that perfect mother of the bride dress or mother of the groom gown, you might want to consider the trends in MOB and MOG dresses for 2009 weddings. You can surely find a lovely dress for your child’s wedding while complementing the style of the bride’s gown and bridal party’s attire.

From colors and fabrics to style of the mother of the bride and mother of the groom dresses, the choices stretch on far and wide. A special mom in the wedding may find a large selection of gowns that provides ample opportunity to find a MOB or MOG dress to fit her own personal sense of style while also matching the theme and level of formality of the bridal party.

As far as trends for the mother of the groom and mother of the bride attire in 2009 weddings, you might be pleasantly surprised with some of the hottest fabrics, colors, and styles for moms.

“Lace is a huge trend for mothers of the bride and mothers of the groom,” Michelle Lynn Buckley, founder and principal of Mint Julep Social Events. “They are donning dresses with delicate lace detailing, mimicking the lacy gowns of designers such as Monique Lhuillier, which are always a bride’s favorite.”

As far as color, Buckley notes that champagne color is making a comeback while “icy colors like pale blue and pink” are also popular dress colors for the bride’s mom and groom’s mom.

“We have also seen mothers taking a turn towards sexy with hot pink dresses (which actually are very flattering!) and bracelet cuffs as accessories,” Buckley says.

If you are open to etiquette suggestions, you can always ask the bride for her preferences for the MOB and MOG dresses. In fact, if she can spare the time amidst her busy wedding planning schedule, asking the bride to accompany you on a dress shopping trip may be a nice way to gain her approval of your wedding day outfit. No matter what you decide, wear your mother of the bride or mother of the groom gown proudly, for your child is celebrating one of the happiest days in a lifetime.

About the Expert:
Michelle Lynn Buckley is founder and principal of Mint Julep Social Events, one of the largest bridal consulting and event planning businesses in the Los Angeles area.  For more information about Mint Julep Social Events, visit online at http://www.mjse.com.

Tips to Keep Your Marriage Exciting and Free from Boredom to Prevent your Spouse from Having an Affair

With affairs ending up in the news, on television shows, in movies, and even in some people’s social circles, many couples may wonder how they can protect their marriages from leading to an affair. While there is no true scientific formula to safeguard your relationship from crumbling due to a cheating spouse, you can strengthen your bond with your partner with a variety of techniques.

“A lot of married couples begin to wonder if marriage is just one long series of chores, errands and kids to be picked up with work sandwiched somewhere in the middle,” says Dr. Noelle Nelson, author of Your Man is Wonderful. “Oh sure, you have some laughs and nice times together, but what happened to the excitement and the passion? It’s that kind of feeling that can make spouses drift to thoughts about other more ‘exciting’ people in their lives and the chances of an affair increase.”

Keeping boredom from creeping into your marriage is one big way to help prevent an affair from taking place. Keep your love life alive with your spouse and do things together as a couple as well as with your entire family. Below are some tips to keep your marriage exciting and free from boredom in an effort to prevent an affair from ruining your marriage.

Q. Are there things a married couple can do to keep their marriage from leading to an affair?

“Communicate, communicate, communicate,” says Paul A. Falzone, CEO of The Right One and Together Dating. “If things aren’t going well in your marriage, you and your wife need to acknowledge that and sit down and focus on what’s wrong. Only by communicating can you keep a marriage from heading down the wrong path.”

Scott Haltzman, MD, notes that staying emotionally connected to your spouse is a great way to protect your relationship from suffering an affair. He suggests the following ideas to help protect your marriage from going down the path of an affair:

•    Do things together and keep your activities and time together exciting.
•    Be open and don’t keep secrets – unknown email accounts, bank accounts, and private social networking sites.
•    Keep your passion alive and engage in romantic intimacy.

Five Ways to Keep Boredom from Taking over Your Marriage
An April 2009 Psychological Science study found after following 123 married couples through 7, 9, and finally 16 years of marriage that boredom does in fact reduce closeness between husband and wife, resulting in a reduced sense of satisfaction within the marriage.

Dr. Noelle Nelson suggests exploring new things together with your spouse and taking the time to explore each other as much as you did when you first began dating. She also offers the following five suggestions for ways to keep boredom at bay to prevent a decline in satisfaction of your marriage.

1. Turn “date night” into more than dinner and a movie.
“Many couples know how to make one night of the week a ‘date night,’ but they should take it one step further so it doesn’t become routine,” says Nelson. “Be innovative. Take turns surprising each other with where you go or what you do on your date. Deliberately come up with ideas that let you explore a new experience together: anything from learning about the night sky at a local observatory to hitting the state fair to trying foods from exotic lands.”

2. Take up a hobby together.
Join a club or a casual sports team with your spouse for a regular activity to do together. From wine tasting to volleyball, bird-watching, and everything in between, you can enhance your quality time with your husband or wife easily and effectively.

“Make regular time every week to do your new hobby together,” offers Nelson. “Be excited and passionate about it, talk about it, look forward to it.”

3. Get a question book.
“People grow and change throughout their lives,” Nelson says. “When you lose interest in finding out what makes him or her tick, they may lose interest in you. Pick up a book filled with lists of questions from the bookstore and start asking your mate. Some questions are thought provoking, some silly, some just plain fun, but it’s a good way to discover what your spouse is really thinking.”

4. Play games together.
“Make an effort to shut off the tube and dive into a word/board game, just the two of you,” suggests Nelson. “It could be scrabble, a computer game or putting a puzzle together. Playing together keeps your love young.”

5. Volunteer together.
Spending time together for a greater cause can enhance your relationship in a number of ways. From food drives to fundraisers and more, you and your spouse can make a difference in the community and in your marriage.

“When you work side by side for the benefit of your community, church, neighborhood, or favorite cause, you share that sense of purpose and accomplishment,” says Nelson. “It brings you closer.”

“These five simple suggestions can banish boredom from marriage without a fatal plunge into an affair or other diversion (gambling, alcohol, excessive shopping) that are detrimental to your relationship,” Nelson shares. “They garner the closeness that fulfillment is all about.”

About the Experts:
Paul A. Falzone is the CEO of The Right One and Together Dating, which boasts more than 60 locations and is growing. Under his leadership, the Company ranked 31st in the 2007 Boston Business Journal’s “Fastest Growing Private Companies in Massachusetts” and was named to Inc Magazine’s list of Fastest Growing Private Companies in America with a three-year growth rate of 133 percent. For more information, you can visit http://www.therightone.com.

Scott Haltzman, MD, is the founder and editor of DrScott.com and 365Reasons.com and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men and The Secrets of Happily Married Women and The Secrets of Happy Families. Dr. Haltzman is board certified in Psychiatry and is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. He is a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry and human behavior at Brown University and the Medical Director of NRI Community Services in Woonsocket, Rhode Island. Visit Dr. Haltzman online at www.DrScott.com.

Dr. Noelle Nelson is the author of Your Man is Wonderful (January 2009, Free Press, www.yourmaniswonderful.com). To view more of Dr. Noelle’s work, please visit her at http://www.dr.noellenelson.com.

Editor’s Note: Life Love Beauty does not condone or encourage affairs or cheating in relationships. The opinions are those of the experts and this article is meant for information purposes only.

2009 Trends for Wedding Day Hairstyles and Bridal Hairdos

Your wedding day hairstyle is most probably the most important hairstyle you’ll wear throughout your entire life. In order to find the most perfect, stunning bridal hairstyle for your wedding day, take great care in researching styles in magazines and online, and don’t forget to consult your favorite hairstylist to learn about the trends for 2009 or whatever year your wedding happens to take place.

Edmondo Blando, owner of Salon Vanity in Philadelphia and a “Best of Philly” hairstylist, notes that the wedding hair trends for 2009 involve “full hair with lots of soft waves, curls and volume.”

He also finds the 2009 wedding hairdo trends include a lot of hair ornaments and accessories such as diamond pins or pearl pins, tiaras, and even feathers. The style of your hair ornaments may depend on the formality of your wedding, and whether you have a traditional wedding theme or a destination wedding theme.

“The big thing will be to have different textures in the hair, for example: hair may be crimped in sections and even braided in others,” Blando says. “Most brides will need to add extensions to get these looks.”

If you are preparing for your 2009 wedding, you can follow the wedding hairstyle trends for the year or you can enjoy your own personal style in a beautiful bridal hairstyle. If your wedding is beyond 2009, you can still follow the 2009 wedding hairstyle trends that you love, or you can check out the wedding hairdo trends for your wedding year. You can always ditch the trends and choose a bridal hairstyle that fits your own personality instead.

Once you find the perfect bridal hairstyle for your wedding day, make sure you take a picture of the hairdo to your stylist and schedule yourself for a test run to make sure your wedding hairdo sample meets your expectations and also looks right with your wedding gown and veil or tiara. Best wishes for a beautiful wedding!

About the Expert:
Edmondo Blando is owner of Salon Vanity in Philadelphia and a “Best of Philly” hairstylist. For more information, visit online at http://www.vanityphilly.com.

Budget Wedding Videography Ideas for Your Traditional Wedding or Destination Wedding

If you would like to capture your wedding day on video, but don’t know if you can spare the expense, you are not alone. Many brides and grooms debate the overall value of wedding video services and find that the wedding video is often an expense they are willing to forego. Many times the wedding video holds less significance than flowers, wedding attire, photography, food, alcohol, and the whole nine yards.

Rather than slash the wedding video from the budget completely, you have a few different options for capturing your wedding on video on the cheap. You can rely on a relative or a friend to capture the wedding footage on their own camcorder, you can hire an amateur or student videography service, or you can try a number of other options for cheap wedding videography. Consider the following options for finding a cheap wedding video idea to fit your budget.

Call in a Favor
Get your uncle, aunt, cousin, friend, or other loved one to help your cause by filming your special day. Having a friend or relative film your wedding day is a favorite wedding cost saver, but it still comes with its own costs – even if not monetary.

The pros – cheap or free, reliable, and easily accessible. The cons – your guest won’t be as focused on enjoying the wedding as you might like…. The added responsibility could detract from the experience for your loved one.

Automate Your Video
Flip MinoIf you are looking for a cheap and low maintenance way to videotape your wedding day festivities, passing around a digital camcorder could be a good way to go. If you buy a compact digital camcorder like a Flip Ultra or Flip Mino (both available in HD), you can get up to two hours of recorded wedding video footage for only the cost of the player (between $100 and $300 or so, available at low prices and often with free shipping on Amazon.com) – plus your own video editing after the fact. Each table of guests can take turns filming each other for your memorable wedding wishes video.

The pros – cheap to get the camera, one less vendor to deal with, easy to upload to YouTube and other sites, and you get to keep a cool device you can enjoy using again and again. (Also, the Flip Ultra and Flip Mino feature a very user-friendly interface involving little more than the Power button, Play button, Record button, and Delete button.) The cons – relatives and friends who are not tech savvy may flounder with this plan or avoid it altogether, also, the Flip video devices capture video in separate segments rather than a running video, so some editing would be necessary.

Hire a Student Video Crew
If you prefer to have a video cameraman or videography camera crew onsite to capture the wedding action, hiring a student video crew or budding video production company can save you some bucks while also giving the new crew some much-needed portfolio material. The cost may vary based on the student video crew you choose, but you must remember that you may be taking a chance by not hiring an established professional, so do your interviews carefully.

The pros – affordable service, potential talent, one good turn deserves another. The cons – you may accidentally hire an inexperienced crew and your wedding video may not turn out as you hope, you may still pay more than you want (depending on the crew you choose).

Take on a Post-Production Video Service
If you want a professional quality wedding video at a fraction of the price, you can combine a couple of ideas for a majorly creative cost savings. Some video production companies and even videographers offer an “edit-only” budget package for brides and grooms who want to document their wedding day on the cheap. Instead of hiring the videographer to come out to your wedding festivities and take the footage, send in your family members’ or friends’ video tapes and wedding day footage for the experts to edit into a lovely video for you to keep and enjoy.

Pixability.com and Wellspunweddings.com are two such video companies that offer an “edit-only” option for documenting your wedding day. Wellspunweddings.com creates a lovely vintage style wedding video from your own wedding footage (Inquire for pricing). Pixability.com offers the UShoot Package at $495 for editing up to three hours of raw wedding day home movie footage plus the inclusion of 20 digital photos. (You can add additional hours of wedding day footage at $85 per hour.) Your order with Pixability.com includes a 30-minute highlight video and three DVD copies.

An edit-only wedding video can be a great option for destination weddings and for brides and grooms who choose to elope instead of going through the big to-do of planning and budgeting for a wedding. You simply follow their guidelines and send in your own footage of the special day and let the pros do the rest. You’ll soon receive a beautiful film of your wedding day that you can cherish forever.

For more information, visit www.pixability.com or www.Wellspunweddings.com.